you know when i lost my first kitty, he was very young and the heartache was terrible,i did not adopt my lexie until three months later, for me it was a mistake and i learn't from that,(should have done it sooner) when lexie arrived i had something else to focus on, did not mean i had forgotten my Sooti, far from it,it just helped ease the pain and i think you to will find this when you find your little companion,however in hindsight if i had adopted sooner i would have missed out on my lovely little lexie, and i am so glad i didn't, thinking of you and i know exactly how you are feeling. HUGS