Would Bob like it if he was given a meal he didn't like and was told he wasn't getting anything else until he ate it even if it sat there for 2 or 3 days? I think not. I think a cat needs to be given options that doesn't mean they are spoiled. Pirate tells me when I can get up and will very verbally let me know he is not happy if I disturb his napping on me so that I will sit still but doesn't mean he is spoiled now does it?