What do I do?!??!!

[Freedom]

Scary things happen and get the cat terrified, so he lashes out.

First the pain of the charlie horse, which must have had BF and you both making unusual sounds, plus it would have changed the chemical scent of BF, then the phone alarm.

Maybe I read to quickly, but I didn't see that the cat ever attacked you at all, just BF. That is the source of the strange things which happen, and kitty gets frightened.

I too would pick the cat and ditch the BF.

[Medusa]

Scary things happen and get the cat terrified, so he lashes out.

First the pain of the charlie horse, which must have had BF and you both making unusual sounds, plus it would have changed the chemical scent of BF, then the phone alarm.

Maybe I read to quickly, but I didn't see that the cat ever attacked you at all, just BF. That is the source of the strange things which happen, and kitty gets frightened.

I too would pick the cat and ditch the BF.

Yes, that's what I gathered from all of this. Your cat was startled, both times by BF, and he was reacting. He was startled by the sounds and he felt that BF was causing them.

I don't like ultimatums especially one such as BF gave you. Your cat did nothing wrong; he simply reacted b/c he was startled.