My dad's lost his mind.....here we go again

[Queen of Poop]

So my mom made the trek yesterday. She saw my dad and his doctor. Dad is in a sad state, still being tortured by the voices in his head. He is currently refusing all medications. Mom told him he had to take the meds if he wanted to come home, seed planted I hope.

Mom had a good talk with the Doctor and is feeling better about things now. She said she was quite firm in not wanting dad back until and unless he was on meds, they were working and he was willing to take them reliably. The doctor is working on building trust with my dad and wants to get him onto low dose meds first and take it from there. This promises to be a long process.

I have to say I'm really proud of my mom and how she is handling this whole awful situation. She's alot stronger than I gave her credit for and is really forward thinking about things like who/how to get their acreage lawn cut, winter snow removal and the like. I'll be going to spend the September long weekend with her and we'll address any issues she might have in getting set for winter there by herself.

[Freedom]

I have to say I'm really proud of my mom and how she is handling this whole awful situation. She's alot stronger than I gave her credit for and is really forward thinking about things like who/how to get their acreage lawn cut, winter snow removal and the like. I'll be going to spend the September long weekend with her and we'll address any issues she might have in getting set for winter there by herself.

Hey, good for Gayle's Mom! Can't be easy . . . doing stuff often helps us get through the tough times . . . she's getting things in order, that is great.

[tokolosh]

I have to say I'm really proud of my mom and how she is handling this whole awful situation.

I second that! She is doing great. I've been thinking about this off and on for a while and I thought maybe she'd benefit from having the numbers of a crisis or domestic violence hotline? Not so much as direct intervention since the cops and social worker seem to have that one locked. But just as an alternate source of non-judgemental support and an experienced 'place' where she can vent or process or think things through if she needs. Although it doesn't sound like your dad is being intentionally frightening to her the way more generic ******* are, she's still stuck with the trauma and the side-effects of having her partner suddenly become extremely scary. She sure deserves all the support and validation that she can get.

[cassiesmom]

QofP, just wondering how things are going for your dad, mom and you. Hope they are going okay.

Hugs and prayers,
elyse

[Queen of Poop]

My mom talked with dad's social worker yesterday. Apparently he'd packed his bag and was planning to leave there yesterday morning. This place is locked down and there was no way he was leaving. They had quite a time getting him to settle down and go back to his room. His doctor is on vacation, previously planned. Dad apparently doesnt' like the replacement doctor at all - great! The original doctor did finally get him to agree to take meds to help him sleep - they are low dose anti psychotics. Not sure they're working so great yet. Mom had me type up and email a list of "events" to the social worker last evening so they'd have a better idea of what has been going on. I am absolutely shocked at his behavior and believe he, my mom and anyone near them is in jeopardy if he's released unmedicated. September 1 is his "hearing". I sure hope they decide to keep him longer.

[Alysser]

Really sorry I haven't seen this yet. This sounds like quite a mess and I am so sorry. I hope they find out what's going on very soon. Much luck and good thoughts for your dad, your mom, and you!

[Queen of Poop]

It's been a few days, thought I'd put down a further update. On Saturday morning dad again packed and tried to leave. Was banging on the doors and pushing on them to be let out. They had a doctor come to sedate him but they were able to get him settled down without that. Later that day mom phoned him and he had no idea who she was, at first, till she told him, then he said he had a little squabble. That they don't seem to understand that he is to be released.

On Thursday, Sep 1, is his hearing. Mom's sent info and provided answers to a ton of questions, she is also going to be conference called into the hearing so she can hear the goings on and provide a statement. Basically she's going to tell them that she is afraid for her safety if he comes home as he's clearly not responding to the low dose meds and seems to be more irrational than before.

I'm just praying that they keep him there. Until he reliably takes meds or for the rest of his days.

[Karen]

Oh, gosh, I hope the hearing goes your way, and they are better able to find a way to stabilize him as time goes on. Have they any idea what is causing this? You are all still in our prayers.