My dad's lost his mind.....here we go again

[Freedom]

Your Dad is in a safe place, and will soon have a diagnosis.

Your Mom had a good night's sleep and is getting through this. I'm glad to read everyone paid attention to HER as well.

You also need to get some rest.

Continued prayers from RI.

[gini]

As wonderful as life can be - it can also be very cruel. I will light a candle for you and your Mom and Dad and pray for you too.

[Marigold2]

Any news yet? Sending prayers to you and family.

[Queen of Poop]

Any news yet? Sending prayers to you and family.

No news yet.

But my dad did phone my mom yesterday around 4 pm. He really wanted to know if she had been there trying to get in to see him. Apparently the nurses had told him no, but the voices in his head told him she had been there. She hadn't, she was at home all day yesterday. He clearly has issues and is in the best place he can be for them.

I had to explain to my mom how to pump gas last night though. She's 70 and never had to do it herself, dad always did it. Hopefully she was successful.

[phesina]

I lit a candle for you and your parents too, Gayle.

{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}} and ~~~~~~~PURRS~~~~~~~ and lots of ,
Pat and cats

[Queen of Poop]

My mom had a conversation with the doctor evaluating my dad. He feels sorry for him, says he's suffering, has "mood" swings. Really dude, where'd you get your degree, a cereal box. The man says "they" shine lasers in his eyes, he has 3 voices in his head and he has mood swings!!! He was crawling on his belly with a GUN!!! It would seem they're going to decide to ship him home next week, they have Thursday "hearings" to determine who stays and who goes. Who's going to be responsible if this idiot lets my dad out and he hurts or kills someone! OMG I am so angry, disappointed, upset!!! He has rights and can't be forced to take medication. I had hopes they could actually help him.

[Karen]

I'd definitely ask for another doctor to see him and evaluate him! He completely sounds like a danger to himself and others in his current mental state.

[Catty1]

In Alberta, Ponoka has one of the best-known and oldest psychiatric hospitals in the province. This does not mean "best".

Using medication is absolutely a good way for someone to be helped, as long as it deals with the condition a person has, and doesn't just mask it.

{{{hugs}}} I can't really imagine how frustrating this is for you. Bear in mind that you heard what the doctor said second hand, from your mom - and any honest person who is upset might hear something different than what the doctor actually said or meant.

More prayers coming.

[phesina]

Gayle, can you talk with this doctor yourself? Your mother might be a bit overwhelmed by the entire situation.

And getting a second opinion sounds like a good idea.

More hugs and purrs and love and prayers for you.

[wombat2u2004]

OMG, I just found this thread.....QOP I'm keeping fingers crossed here that all will work out fine. Yeah, get another doctor.

[Queen of Poop]

I see my own counsellor this evening and will bring this up with her, get her take and then move forward. I looked up this doctor and it seems he deals with dementia, depression and suicide risk in the elderly. If this indeed is not dementia then it's likely some sort of psychosis and should be dealt with accordingly, perhaps he needs to be in another facility. I am very afraid of what he could do if he's let out. He was given phone access yesterday and called my mom 4 times that I knew of (hoping he didn't call her all night long). Each time it was weird and weirder. And he's been asking her for my phone number, so far she's not given it. The voices in his head are telling him things that just aren't so. Mom said she detailed all the events to the doctor who seemed unphased. At least he will remain there thru next Thursday, we can make a plan in the meantime.

Thanks again all for the support. Never a dull moment in my life, too bad it's all bad!

[cassiesmom]

the doctor... seemed unphased

That doesn't sound good to me. Maybe the doctor sees this every day; but I think he should still be concerned, for your dad's well-being and also for your mom and yours. And I'm making an assumption this was never a problem for your dad before last week, that it started then. There are so many things that can cause confusion or delirium; some of them are simple but others are complex. I'll keep praying.

[momcat]

Hi Gayle,
You're absolutely right, do talk to your counselor about your Dad's situation. It bothers me that his doctor seemed unphased by all of this. Maybe your counselor can offer a referral to another doctor for a second opinion and also give you some insight as to what's happening. You might want to ask your counselor what questions you should be asking and what answers you should expect.

My father had advanced Alzheimers so I understand what you and your Mom are going through right now. Don't hesitate to pm me if there's anything I can offer you from my experience.

Please know that my support and prayers continue for you, your Mom, and your Dad. Sending [[[[[HUGS]]]]] to you and your Mom

[Catty1]

The doctor may seem unphased because he is very familiar with this kind of behaviour. It's friends and family's duty to be worried and upset - the doctor can't be if s/he is the decision maker.

By all means talk to your counsellor and even your own doctor.

{{{{HUGS}}}}

[jennielynn1970]

Gosh, this is so unsettling to say the least. I hope the doctors decide to keep him there and get him treated for whatever is going on. I mean, hearing voices in your head is NOT just a mood swing. I'll show them a mood swing, lol.

Thoughts and prayers going out to you and your mom and dad. I hope they make the right decision at the hospital, and if not, I hope you can get it taken care of some other way so that he doesn't hurt anyone else or himself.


HUGS!!!!