If your cat was dying, would you go on vacation? :-(

**mrspunkysmom** · 06-15-2011, 02:04 PM

Originally Posted by Kirsten

I understand that there are many things to consider when the trip is already paid, and cannot be refunded, or if it's something you've been planning for years.

But this is just a visit with some relatives of her sons' dad (her ex). Nothing was booked, nothing paid for; and it's not that she hasn't seen these people for a long time, she already met them at Easter, which is not too long ago. There would have been absolutely no problem to cancel - or postpone - the trip.

I don't think that you mentioned before that it was just a family visit. That definitely could be rescheduled. I plan my trips around the weather and my cats needs and sometimes these intersect, like when it's very hot.

**K9karen** · 06-15-2011, 10:57 PM

I actually gave up vacations since I got Logan. I have friends who would take her out and feed her while my brother is a work, but I can't trust their reliability with grandkids etc. Although she's not cronically ill, she still takes meds for her bad hips. Despite John's insistance to board Logan (test her out first for a day), I just can't. She's still fearful of strange situations unless I'm there. John's in LA getting work and I refuse to fly out. He can come back here. Yes, Logan is on the TOP rung of my ladder.

I knew what I was getting into when I got her. Maybe another dog with another personality could handle a long seperation, but not Logan, who had a tough start in life. God forbid Logan was really ill, I'd never leave the house.

**Kirsten** · 06-16-2011, 03:18 PM

She's back from her vacation now, but the kitty is still at the vet's, still running a fever. Turned out that he's also dealing with toxoplasmosis, which has obviously affected his brain. I know that toxoplasmosis usually doesn't affect cats at all, but obviously it does when the immune system is down.

My friend thinks he has reached a point where he should be helped to the bridge, but obviously her vet hasn't given up hope yet (but she only spoke to the vet techs so far). She has an appointment at the vet's tomorrow to discuss further options. Poor little kitty!

**moosmom** · 06-16-2011, 03:57 PM

Kirsten,

Toxoplasmosis does affect cats. I have a friend who rescued a feral that was diagnosed with toxoplasmosis and HiV. It caused him to go into seizures. She had him on phenabarbitol. Then she took him to holistic vet. Turns out the toxo was the cause of seisures. They are now in the process of weaning him off the medicine. He's a big lovable lug who went from 20 lbs to 16 lbs. There isn't a feral bone in his body. You'd never know he was formerly feral. Another success story. I'm just glad Betty didn't give up on him, despite everyone, including me (till I learned better) telling her he'd be better off being pts.

Please tell your friend not to give up on him.

I'm glad the vet hasn't. Oh, and btw, my answer to your question, "OH HELL NO!!"

**Kirsten** · 06-16-2011, 04:13 PM

Originally Posted by moosmom

Kirsten,

Toxoplasmosis does affect cats. I have a friend who rescued a feral that was diagnosed with toxoplasmosis and HiV. It caused him to go into seizures. She had him on phenabarbitol. Then she took him to holistic vet. Turns out the toxo was the cause of seisures. They are now in the process of weaning him off the medicine. He's a big lovable lug who went from 20 lbs to 16 lbs. There isn't a feral bone in his body. You'd never know he was formerly feral. Another success story. I'm just glad Betty didn't give up on him, despite everyone, including me (till I learned better) telling her he'd be better off being pts.

Please tell your friend not to give up on him.

I'm glad the vet hasn't. Oh, and btw, my answer to your question, "OH HELL NO!!"

I will tell her, but I don't think she's in the position to spend much more money on him. Another thing is, she sounded concerned re. the toxoplasmosis and her kids. Last week, one of the boys was ill, and now she thinks he has picked it up. I may be wrong, but to me it sounded today as if she does no longer want him. Maybe the vet would be willing to adopt him - if he can be saved -, according to my friend, he had a big heart for animals and takes the ones that people do not want. I tend to think that this would be the best solution for poor Benny...

Glad to hear that the story of Betty's kitty had a happy ending...

**Kirsten** · 06-20-2011, 02:32 PM

He has passed away last night, still at the vet's. A couple of days ago, he seemed to do better and the fever went down, but now his liver failed. This morning, my friend had a message from the vet's office on her answering machine, telling her that Benny is gone. Now he's with his sister, who went to bridge a year ago, also from FIV.

R.I.P. little one!

**Medusa** · 06-20-2011, 02:35 PM

Sigh. I'm so sorry. At least his suffering is now over and he's free.

**Kirsten** · 06-20-2011, 02:44 PM

Originally Posted by Medusa

Sigh. I'm so sorry. At least his suffering is now over and he's free.

Yes, I'm trying to find some comfort in that thought, too. If she had taken him home today (as it was planned), he would have been on his own again the next days, because she'll be going on another trip with her kids on Thursday. Considering that, I'm really glad that he was still at the vet's when it happened.

**phesina** · 06-20-2011, 03:20 PM

Rest in peace, dearest little Benny, with your sister again.

**Catty1** · 06-20-2011, 03:55 PM

Benny, you were with caring people who did all they could for you. Play happy at the Bridge, dear one.

**RedHedd** · 06-24-2011, 12:29 PM

Originally Posted by Kirsten

Yes, I'm trying to find some comfort in that thought, too. If she had taken him home today (as it was planned), he would have been on his own again the next days, because she'll be going on another trip with her kids on Thursday. Considering that, I'm really glad that he was still at the vet's when it happened.

RIP sweet kitty. He's in a better place. Play hard at the Rainbow Bridge.

As for the owner, I have no words. I plan my vacations around my cats - they come first! Others may think that's weird, that I'm a crazy cat lady, but so what. They're my babies and will always come first.

**Pawsitive Thinking** · 07-20-2011, 03:27 AM

Not a chance! If my boy needed me to stay home I'd stay home.

So sorry that Benny has gone although this sentence did make me a bit cross "but I don't think she's in the position to spend much more money on him" - she managed a vacation though.

However, all water under the bridge now so RIP little puss xx

**carole** · 07-26-2011, 07:20 PM

Kirsten i so understand your fury, i would feel the same, i cannot even leave my kitties for a break away, i just hate leaving them, some people just don't feel like we do, they should not have pets in my opinion, but they do, very sad, i hope kitty passes gently over to the rainbow bridge, my thoughts are with kitty and you, as you are the one knowing all this and i know how hard that can be, it is on your mind, and not being able to do anything is so hard and frustrating, HUGS.