Screaming dad

[mrspunkysmom]

Part 3:

As a teacher, I can tell you that many parents mean well, but do not know how to discipline. I often wonder if fear of "big brother" has had an impact on this.

I am against corporal punishment, especially for teenagers and pre-teens. I do believe that consistent discipline brings out the desired behavior.

However, I have met families where all but one of the children did right, followed the rules, etc. That one child broke the rules just to break them. And the parent might have to resort to more stringent measures to keep the child in line.

My mother never had to go to school for my youngest brother and I. We flew under the radar naturally. This is the one that I visit, who is a chief of security for a Mall (also a certified policemen in NC). The middle one was born demanding his way and approached life with the idea "I might get in trouble." Mother had to resort to draconian measures to keep him in line. So instead of being a chief or problem fixer for a Mafia house, he is an executive with a Fortune 100 company.

This company is a financial services company, so the mafia description night not be too far off the mark.

If I saw abuse I might say something, but I know that I have to consider the I might not know everything about that situation.

[Prairie Purrs]

To this day, my mother thinks she just spanked my sister and me a bit when it was absolutely necessary.

She used to break wooden spoons over our rear ends. I had bruises from my lower back to the backs of my knees. She was still hitting me when I was in my teens. The psychological damage persists to this day--and I'm in my 50s.

Someone who hauls a kid away by the face in public has to be doing worse in private. If he did that to an adult, it would be considered assault and battery. Why is it acceptable if the victim is a child?

I'm a big fan of teaching one's children to behave. But violence is not an acceptable means.

[Marigold2]

Beautifully said. May I ask do you see or speak to your mom now?

To this day, my mother thinks she just spanked my sister and me a bit when it was absolutely necessary.

She used to break wooden spoons over our rear ends. I had bruises from my lower back to the backs of my knees. She was still hitting me when I was in my teens. The psychological damage persists to this day--and I'm in my 50s.

Someone who hauls a kid away by the face in public has to be doing worse in private. If he did that to an adult, it would be considered assault and battery. Why is it acceptable if the victim is a child?

I'm a big fan of teaching one's children to behave. But violence is not an acceptable means.