Dig your way out of this mess?

[wombat2u2004]

That's what marriage is all about - the basis of it. If one goes into a marriage with the full intention of sleeping around, then why bother getting married in the first place? Are they doing it for tax purposes? - property ownership? - medical benefits? - convenience of having a bed partner when no one else is available? - because they think "it's the thing to do"? Let's just abolish marriage and have everyone sleep here, there, and everywhere, and that way no one will ever have to be chastised for spreading their genes. But of course, they will probably be spreading a lot more than just their genes, too!

But most of this is a sign of the times. People DO marry for convenience, it happens all the time. So they are not going to take their vows seriously and that is evidenced by so much cheating going on and divorces and the like. And there's certainly plenty of that around....and yes....in this day and age, it is the IN thing to do for many people.

Some questions: You give me your answers, and I'll give you mine.........
1. Why do you think wife swapping is so prevalent in your society and mine ???
2. Do you believe that both husband and wife are breaking their marriage vows by becoming involved in partner swapping ?????
3. Why do people, both men and women have affairs ????
4. If you knew a man who was cheating on his wife because she was cold and unresponsive toward him most of the time, would you think less of that man than if he just chose to put up with her ???
5. Would you expect that man to put up with his cold and unresponsive wife for the rest of his life, and just call it his bad luck because he's married to the wrong person ???
6. Do peoples feelings for their spouses change over the years of marriage ????

[Bonny]

number 5. That is why you can go get a divorce & move on.

number6. Yes, feelings about your spouse do change over the years. It all takes work if you are lazy & don't care then marriage isn't for you get a divorce & move on.

[pomtzu]

It all boils down to one thing: Different people - different values.

[wombat2u2004]

number6. Yes, feelings about your spouse do change over the years. It all takes work if you are lazy & don't care then marriage isn't for you get a divorce & move on.

Ah yes.......now that's a simple answer.
What if those people are expected NOT to divorce ??? By religion, family etc etc. What then ????
And what about the kids ???? A loveless marriage, a cold and unresponsive wife or husband, a bunch of little kids who they both love to death and would never hurt them by parting.......and breaking up the family unit.
What about the economics ???? Divorce could be financially shattering to a family like that.
Wouldn't that be more crippling to a family unit than adultery ????