I've found that in general male cats are much more loving than females but in my case right now Storm and Sky aren't lap cats but love pets and scritches. Alani & Blaze love for me to hold them and cuddle them and they will sit on my lap for short periods of time but this may change as they get older. Pearl is my needy cat these days. She has to be with constantly and yes she's sitting in my lap right now as I'm typing this. Ziggy isn't a lap cat but she'll meow to me for pets and scritches.

I've had everyone since they were kittens except for Storm and Sky. I think that since Pearl is a Siamese mix that this makes her more needy to her special person.