Needing advice re my Ellie-Mae

[carole]

Thank you everyone, i really appreciate the input so much, the thing is i know cats can do very well despite having no teeth, that is not the problem here, the problem is having the procedure is high risk for her, also she may well just have the same problem after it all, that is where my huge dilemma is.

I trust my vet completely , 100 per cent, however he is also going by research on the internet, he has not said that he has done this before for this problem, so we are treading in to the unknown.

I really am caught between a rock and hard place, because her life now is up and down,she has good weeks and bad and this is a very painful condition, and we are treating it the only way we can, with constant steroids,which of course have long term side effects, her injections,however there is no doubt that she does suffer, and that concerns me greatly, however other than this she leads a good life, she seems content enough except when she is having bad flare ups.

It really is a very cruel disease IMO.

The internet tells me there has only been 30 per cent of cats that have improved, that really is not very high,and does not give me much faith.

The trauma for her is the whole operation, after that i am sure she would be ok,but again not necessarily cured or even any better,it would seem awful to put her through so much with added risk, if this turned out to be the case.

So you see i just have no idea what to do, i will talk it over more with my vet when he gets back from the Uk, there is no urgency at this stage, we do have time on our sides, so that is something.

At the moment i am steering towards not having it done, i just don't like the odds or the risks ,but then i have to wonder how long Ellie can survive like this, everything i read say's extraction is the very last resort, there are other medications out there ,but they have not been trialed enough, and i am not making her a guinea pig.

For my vet to suggest it though, he must be thinking we are at the last resort stage, he initially was not for it either, but after doing some research he told me last night that he thought it might well be the way to go for her.

I have to tell you as we were leaving a couple arrived with the big dog a rottweiler (sp) poor baby could not walk, i thought she had been injured, but he said no she is old and i think it is her time, i patted her and she looked up at me with such a sweet look on her face, i could not hold my tears back, not in front of her owners though,she was so beautiful, and i felt so sad for her and her owners, obviously a well loved and looked after pet, i was thinking about her quite a bit during the night, so if she went to the RB, i hope she went peacefully.

[phesina]

Oh, Carole, I don't know what to suggest with regard to your dilemma. I'm near tears myself reading your message, it's so full of your love and concern and care for dear Ellie Mae.

I think you are doing right in learning all you can about the prospects for the different choices. Talk it over as much as you need to with your vet whom you trust. Tell him all about your concerns and your fears. Ask every question you can think of and keep asking. Ask others, as you are doing here, and get all the information you can.

You and Ellie Mae will make the best decision you can when the time is right.

Carole and Ellie-Mae, God bless you both and your family and your good vet. And the rottweiler and his family, too. May the sweet doggie be resting peacefully by the Rainbow Bridge waiting for his beloved ones to join him, one fine day..

Love, {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} and ~~~~~PURRS~~~~~,
Pat, Sydney, Poppy, Elmer, Bob, and Sparkler

[carole]

thank you from the bottom of my heart Phesina for that lovely message, it really comforted me ,i am finding it so difficult to make any decision , and i will do as you all have suggested, research, talk it over with me vet more before i do anything ,you can be assured of that.

Ellie Mae is a very special and unique kitty, i have never owned one quite like her, she is a fiesty lil madam at times, but not with us, mostly other cats, including her own daughter, but she is full of purrsonality,and that is what i love about her so much, in the pic in my siggy below she almost looks like she is smiling to me, one would never know to look at her what is really going on , would they?

She has lost a little weight since our last visit but it is not major, so that is a good thing, however being on so much steroids you would expect her to become rather fat, not happening, good in some ways, as diabetes is often the end result of that, but again, she is holding her own, she is a little cat in stature anyhow, so we don't want her like my other two girls,rather tubby lol.

At least i have time to think about it all and that sure helps, today she is doing well, she is often very much better after her injection but that only lasts about two weeks, i guess she is not in the same amount of pain, i cannot think of anything worse than having a continuous sore mouth and being hungry and not being able to eat,it so saddens me this lil girl had such an awful life for six years of her life before i got her, i am only happy to say that because i rescued her from that awful woman, she is alive and getting the best i can give her, she would have died ages ago a very slow and painful death, of starvation, it does not even bear thinking about does it?

[katladyd]

Thank you for taking such good care of pretty Ellie-Mae! She needs you and you need her! You will both work it out together.