cheating

**Asiel** · 06-14-2010, 11:41 AM

Nobody's marriage is perfect and at one time or another problems arise. Most mature couples can sit down and discuss the options. Even the best marriages take hard work to keep them going. Going to a stranger causes more problems than the original problem.

If someone can't take the heat then they should stay out of the kitchen and not jump on a dog forum.

**carole** · 06-14-2010, 05:17 PM

Asiel i am a little confused,, you say going to a stranger causes more problems than the original problems, so are you saying that seeking professional help causes more problems, because they are usually strangers, or am i reading your comment wrong.

I will say it again, professional help can be a good option for some, but it is not for everyone, and it does not always work.,sometimes sharing it with someone close to you a special friend can indeed be all that is needed, i have done that myself and it has helped me a great deal,all marriages take hard work and committment for sure.

As for not being able to take the heat in here, i think Marigold handles herself rather well considering.

Gayle, i agree with your post 100 per cent, and hey don't be feeling alone on sundays, we are all here for ya.

**Asiel** · 06-14-2010, 07:38 PM

I don't consider a trained marriage counsellor the same as someone on a dog forum with hundreds of people reading about personal problems. One big difference is that the professionals follow a strict code of conduct and privacy between a patient and themselves is one of them. If you can't see the difference then go ahead and open up to anyone who will listen and share the story with other gossipers.

**Marigold2** · 06-14-2010, 08:29 PM

No one on this forum knows this couple nor do they go on this website.
Many of us have posted private things about ourselves and our family and friends here.
We post our health issues both good and bad.
Our private thoughts on sensitive issues.
We post about our marriage, death, birth, miscarriages, children being in trouble, depression.
We post it all. Why, because we should feel safe here amoung friends and regardless of our feelings on certain issues there should always be respect and support. There is such a varied group here different ages, different parts of the world, gay, straight, single, married, child, senior we have it all.
But in a crazy way we are a family.
I did not butt my nose into these peoples lives, they came to me and asked me for help and advice first the girl and then the husband.
I gave them love and support that is what a friend does in my book.
I don't feel I have to explain myself to anyone about this issue I just posted because I was mentally drained from the pain of it all and I needed a PT hug.

Originally Posted by Asiel

I don't consider a trained marriage counsellor the same as someone on a dog forum with hundreds of people reading about personal problems. One big difference is that the professionals follow a strict code of conduct and privacy between a patient and themselves is one of them. If you can't see the difference then go ahead and open up to anyone who will listen and share the story with other gossipers.

**NicoleLJ** · 06-14-2010, 09:16 PM

(((hugs)))

**carole** · 06-14-2010, 09:51 PM

Thank you for explaining Asiel, i mis-understood what you were saying, however you did not have to be so narky about it, i was simply asking you to do that, end of.

Marigold, i agree with you, i have seen many things of a very personal nature on here , that i would not even think about posting, and as long as the poster is comfortable with it, well who am i to judge them for their posts.

Again you have stated they are highly unlikely to come here and read these threads,no names have been mentioned, i see no harm done, and i understand where you were coming from on this issue,it is good to share with others when things are worrying you, or getting you down, or just simply to get it off one's chest, i see that is all you were doing, there have been many posts similar to your's over the year's and no-one seems to have taken such offense as they have to this one,strange that, that said, again i wish you and your friends well.