So stressed - can't pay rent *Update* A Little Good News About Health Issues*

[Marigold2]

Wishing you the best of luck. I truly am sorry that you have found yourself on such tough times. I understand you are working but perhaps a second job even for a few hours a week would bring some extra cash in.
There are times in many people lives when we have to work two jobs until things change. My sister had to work for four years 7 days a week to support herself and her kids. She worked on one horse farm during the week and mucked out stalls on the weekend at another for extra money.
She used to be so tired she could hardly move, but as she liked to say she was thin and in shape. That is called looking on the bright side.
There were times when she was almost in tears from the hard work but she made it and raised her three kids without a man and now is in a better place. You will be as well. Don't give up, just put your head up, work hard and it will be ok, maybe not today or next week but you WILL get there. Again best of luck.

[Anikaca77]

I would look for another job but with my back issues I don't think I could stand that right now. My back hasn't been feeling very well lately, I'm guessing stress is just making the pain feel worse or something.

I go for my second injection tomorrow and I'm going to make some more phone calls to see if I can get us some more help so we are not too far behind next month. Hopefully something will work I'm just afraid they will say that we make too much but I'm going to try anyway and give it a shot.

I'm feeling so blue today and all I want to do is cry but that won't get me anywhere but I feel it would.

Yet to boot, I have to go get tested tomorrow to see if I have ADD/ADHD or if this is just PTSD or maybe it's just Adult Children of Alcoholics.

I've felt like I wanted to cry here all day but hopefully it will get better.

Talk with ya later,
Melissa

[pomtzu]

Melissa - a part time job isn't always the answer anyway, so maybe it's just as well that you can't do it. It's a quick temporary fix for the present, but hardly a long time cure, and you would find that out next year when you filed your taxes. My ex always insisted we needed the extra money (we didn't), and he always worked a part time job in addition to his full time one. And every year it screwed us up and we got much less back on Federal, and ended up paying State. Unless you can find a job that would pay you "under the table", then you could be in the same position you are now.

[carole]

Melissa i think you have enough on your plate right now, with your health issues and working full time, i hear what people are saying,and yes a second job would help get you through, but will your health survive it, try your best to get by as you are for now.
I imagine jobs are not that easy to come by right now anyhow, i really feel for you so much, i only wish i could help you, i have little means myself but i honestly would help if i could.
Just know we are here for you anytime, feel free to pm me, and cry if you need to, sometimes it is a great stress reliever if nothing else.
And honey if you are going through early menopause because of the medication i really empathise with you, it is no picnic,take care and giant HUGS.

[Anikaca77]

Melissa i think you have enough on your plate right now, with your health issues and working full time, i hear what people are saying,and yes a second job would help get you through, but will your health survive it, try your best to get by as you are for now.
I imagine jobs are not that easy to come by right now anyhow, i really feel for you so much, i only wish i could help you, i have little means myself but i honestly would help if i could.
Just know we are here for you anytime, feel free to pm me, and cry if you need to, sometimes it is a great stress reliever if nothing else.
And honey if you are going through early menopause because of the medication i really empathise with you, it is no picnic,take care and giant HUGS.

exactly, I don't think I could of said it any better. I know everyone one here is giving great advice and I'm so thankful I have you all here and I really appreciate everything you all have said so thank you very much.

I've been so stressed right now and it's been just so rough. I'm stressing right now due to the test that I'm going for tomorrow and then after that test for ADD/ADHD or if this is just PTSD or maybe it's just Adult Children of Alcoholic I have to go get another back injection because I had one a few weeks ago and it didn't work.

I'm going to try again tomorrow and right now I'm so stressed at work between my back pain and what not. I don't want people to think I'm asking for money but if anyone would like to help out with gas so I'm not stressing out like a crazy girl which if you can't I completely understand believe me, times are so rough right now for everyone and I feel horrible for even posting my paypal address but I'm going to call a few places tomorrow while resting after my injection since that's all I'm supposed to do after the injection, my paypal address is [email protected]

Again, I want to thank you all for your support and advice, I will look into some cleaning jobs but I don't know how much emotionally and pain wise I can take because my tail bone is killing me right now.

I don't think I've mentioned my back problems here much just when I reply to some people but here is a quick rundown on what it up with my back:



Here are the results from my MRI in Jan. 08:

There is a grade 2 spondylolisthesis of L5 on S1. Estimated anterolisthesis is 7 mm. There is associated degenerative intervertebral disc change on L5-S1.

Sagittal images suggests a broad-based bulging disc at L4-L5 and L-3-L4.

There are findings of a mild broad-based disc bulge at L3-L4. This creates only minimal impact with the thecal sac with the neural foramina considered patent bilaterally. The L4-L5 level demonstrates a right central disc herniation. There may be a very small, extruded disc fragment posterior to the L5 vertebral body. This appears to be in contact with the right L5 nerve root. There is very mild narrowing of the right and to a lesser extent left neural foramina.

The L5-S1 levels shows again a grade 2 spondylolisthesis of the L5 on S1. This appears to be associated with a posterior spondylosis. This is combined with a broad-based disc herniation and creates a moderate impact upon the anterior aspect of the subarachnoid space. Impact upon the thecal sac is minimal. The exception is at the level of the neural foramen where there is considerable right and to a lesser extent left foraminal stenosis.

Grade 2 spondylolisthesis of L5 on S1 associated with a posterior
spondylosis.

There is estimated 7 mm anterolisthesis with significant to severe
right and to a lesser extent left foraminal stenosis at L5-S1.

Mild right central disc herniation of L4-L5 with a small, extruded
fragment creating a moderate localized impact upon the right L5 nerve
root.

Minimal broad-based disc bulge at L3-L4 of doubtful clinical
significance.


I had a CT Scan done on 2/6/09 and this is what they said: There is a mild change of Degenerative Disc Disease with small vertebral body osteophytes. There is disc space narrowing at L4-L5. There is evidence of bilateral spondylolsis of L5 with Grade 1 to 2 Spondylolisthesis of L5 on S1. No vertebral compression deformities are identified. The sacrobiliac joints appear intact. Slight spurring is seen along the supermedial margins of both iliac bones.

That's it for now.
I just need a good cry maybe that would help. It's so crazy when you get these spells like you just want to cry.

Melissa

[carole]

Firstly i want to re-assure you, don't feel bad for posting your paypal address, when in need ,one has to ask, if people can and want to they will help,sometimes you just have to ask.

Also you sure don't have to justify to me anyhow or anyone IMO, why you are unable to take on any more work, i think you are doing great considering your health issues, back pain is the pitts, and i do know a fellow sufferer here too.

And sweetheart just have that good cry, bawl your eyes out if you need to, it will release some of the tension you are feeling right now.

Good luck with your tests, i hope they have a good outcome,and that they don't add to your troubles right now.

I had a thought, and wondered if any PTer's here might want to contribute to a food parcel for you and your pets, maybe if everyone who could ,donated one item of food and sent it to you, I don't know if it would work, or anyone wants to do that,but it is just a thought.

Again here for you . HUGS.

[Anikaca77]

Firstly i want to re-assure you, don't feel bad for posting your paypal address, when in need ,one has to ask, if people can and want to they will help,sometimes you just have to ask.

Also you sure don't have to justify to me anyhow or anyone IMO, why you are unable to take on any more work, i think you are doing great considering your health issues, back pain is the pitts, and i do know a fellow sufferer here too.

And sweetheart just have that good cry, bawl your eyes out if you need to, it will release some of the tension you are feeling right now.

Good luck with your tests, i hope they have a good outcome,and that they don't add to your troubles right now.

I had a thought, and wondered if any PTer's here might want to contribute to a food parcel for you and your pets, maybe if everyone who could ,donated one item of food and sent it to you, I don't know if it would work, or anyone wants to do that,but it is just a thought.

Again here for you . HUGS.

You are just too kind seriously. I can't wait till I get out of work, I'm not feeling so much like crying at the moment I just exhausted.

I want to be hard worker believe me and I don't want my back stopping me but more and more even though I lost 65 lbs. so far since last March (the doctors told me even if I lose more weight it's not going to help my structure problem but overall health it will help) so I'm trying there.

Luckly, before I found out about my husband's check I got some food from the vets, so I have a full un-opened bag of the I/D Hills food for the little guy (he's the only one that eats that so that will take him a few months hopefully), then the C/D Hills, Ashley and Sebastian eat and I'm getting low on the 10-lb. bag and the rest of my guys eat the California Natural Chicken and Brown rice food, I've called them for coupons before but they told me they only do 1 coupon per household. I think that's a bit silly because Purnia will give me 3 cat litter coupons for $2 off which always helps.

I can check the local food bank for food right now I think we will be ok for a little while we def. have food in the cupboards so we can do the P&J's we of course will make sure our kitties have food no matter what and fresh water.

Thank you for your kind words,
Melissa

[DJFyrewolf36]

Another *HUG* for you! I hate being in that loop of not having enough to get by but having too much for any type of help. My food stamps are what keeps me afloat every month and I am so glad that I qualify! To me that seems the easiest thing to qualify for, at least around here. Don't know what its like in your state tho.

*BIGHUGS* and prayers on the way!

[Cataholic]

Melissa - a part time job isn't always the answer anyway, so maybe it's just as well that you can't do it. It's a quick temporary fix for the present, but hardly a long time cure, and you would find that out next year when you filed your taxes. My ex always insisted we needed the extra money (we didn't), and he always worked a part time job in addition to his full time one. And every year it screwed us up and we got much less back on Federal, and ended up paying State. Unless you can find a job that would pay you "under the table", then you could be in the same position you are now.

For anyone reading this thread, and feeling the pinch in their own household (and, really, who isn't), please note that working a second job(or more hours at your first job) IS the only way to bring more money into your household.

Getting more or less money back from the government is not a 'working 2 jobs' problem, it is not taking enough (or too many) deductions on the form (W-4)you fill out. I have heard that it is recommended that for for your second job, you claim 0 exemptions/dependents so that the highest amount of tax is taken out. That will cover you at the end of the year, and you will still get a refund. (Getting a refund, or a large refund, is a whole 'nother financial discussion).

Melissa- I am not encouraging YOU to get a second job...just don't want anyone that reads this to think there isn't any benefit to getting a second job to help you get out from under.

[pomtzu]

For anyone reading this thread, and feeling the pinch in their own household (and, really, who isn't), please note that working a second job(or more hours at your first job) IS the only way to bring more money into your household.

Getting more or less money back from the government is not a 'working 2 jobs' problem, it is not taking enough (or too many) deductions on the form (W-4)you fill out. I have heard that it is recommended that for for your second job, you claim 0 exemptions/dependents so that the highest amount of tax is taken out. That will cover you at the end of the year, and you will still get a refund. (Getting a refund, or a large refund, is a whole 'nother financial discussion).

Melissa- I am not encouraging YOU to get a second job...just don't want anyone that reads this to think there isn't any benefit to getting a second job to help you get out from under.

I never meant to imply to anyone that there was no benefit to working a second job, but you need to be careful how you go about it. The income can throw you into a higher tax bracket, and in some instances, employers won't have state tax deducted unless you work a specific number of hours, and therefore you end up paying what is owed at tax time. Been there - done that - it's not something I'm making up for the sake of conversation!

[Asiel]

I've looked at the resuls for your back and I would suggest forgetting about cleaning jobs. My friend cleans houses , paid under the table and it does help but she has no back issues and she still comes home ready to pass out. But if you could get offices to clean those are a lot easier. No heavy work, no floors or windows to wash. Mostly dusting, placing things, and emptying the garbages in the bins. Could you do some baby sitting on your days off? Or dog sitting...we have a lot of people looking for someone to type resumes and such out here, maybe you could try doing that from home? Money under the table is always better than a second job to throw you in a higher tax bracket.

[Marigold2]

Adult Children of Alcoholic is something I have never heard of. Could you explain please. My dad is an Alcoholic, I made sure I did not marry one.

[Anikaca77]

I've looked at the resuls for your back and I would suggest forgetting about cleaning jobs. My friend cleans houses , paid under the table and it does help but she has no back issues and she still comes home ready to pass out. But if you could get offices to clean those are a lot easier. No heavy work, no floors or windows to wash. Mostly dusting, placing things, and emptying the garbages in the bins. Could you do some baby sitting on your days off? Or dog sitting...we have a lot of people looking for someone to type resumes and such out here, maybe you could try doing that from home? Money under the table is always better than a second job to throw you in a higher tax bracket.

Thanks for the tip, I will look into that. Thanks so much again for your suggestion.

Melissa

[Anikaca77]

For anyone reading this thread, and feeling the pinch in their own household (and, really, who isn't), please note that working a second job(or more hours at your first job) IS the only way to bring more money into your household.

Getting more or less money back from the government is not a 'working 2 jobs' problem, it is not taking enough (or too many) deductions on the form (W-4)you fill out. I have heard that it is recommended that for for your second job, you claim 0 exemptions/dependents so that the highest amount of tax is taken out. That will cover you at the end of the year, and you will still get a refund. (Getting a refund, or a large refund, is a whole 'nother financial discussion).

Melissa- I am not encouraging YOU to get a second job...just don't want anyone that reads this to think there isn't any benefit to getting a second job to help you get out from under.

I know you weren't encouraging me to get another job, I've worked 2 jobs in the past just not recently due to the back pain and I just felt like I needed to explain what was going on with my back because anyone and I'm sure a lot of people have back pain and abuse the "government system" because of pain and what not but I guess I just wanted people to know I'm not like that and I'm a hard worker and if need be I will find another job but right now with my back I'm going to look into some other assistance.

Thank you though for your posts and I hope I didn't upset you or anything.
Melissa