I are what you are saying, Donna. It is more that the fact she isn't a lap cat, it is also that you don't feel a strong bond with her. That can be that your heart isn't completely "open" to receiving her YET, and you feel divided with your feelings for mollie rose. That, coupled with the possibility that she isn't a lap cat YET can be unsettling.

I think you both need more time. A month is not very long, really. She may come around, you may come around to accepting this kitty in your heart more securely.

More time, more patience.