Quote Originally Posted by pomtzu View Post
Wow - this story brought tears to my eyes - especially what you related about the rose and the card.

Believe it or not, but someday you will remember your ex for the good in him, and not all the bad. Believe me - I've been there. It took me a long time to do it, but I decided if I was going to have any peace in my life, then I had to bury the negative. Oh sure - I still joke about the bad - especially around family - but I really no longer dwell on it in my mind. And it only took me 15 years to do it!!!
Ellie- thanks for the thoughts. I don't think I'll ever be where you are, even in 15 years. There was no 'bad' in him, before he betrayed me. Now the best I can do for myself is to 'surgically remove' all the memories of him, leaving me with just my memories of places and things. I traveled the world with him, over 100 countries. I want to remember the experience, but I want to use the 'delete tool' and Photoshop him out of it.
Let him remember the 'good' in me, and how I was devoted to him, and loved him with all my strength. I regret ever giving him a chance, he wasted my time, for 16 years.

I will only think of Malfi at this dedication. He was a wonderful soul, so grateful and gentle. I miss that broken down old cat SO much.