Where I'm at now...something positive

[Pinot's Mom]

...and you've both come so far! Did you take that suggestion to read the beginning of this thread and see how far that is?? I think that's a good idea...

((((hugs)))) to both...

[Moesha]

My neighbor received some good advice from her doctor regarding her recovery from cancer treatments that applies equally in your cases too, I think. You may not be able to tell how much you've improved on a daily basis. You'll have good days and bad days. But if you look back over the time period of a week, you'll notice how far you've come. I eagerly look for any updates in this thread. I wish there was something I could do to help both of you get through this. If a big fuzzy slanket would help, I'd gladly send one to you! I think though that part of the process in situations like this is learning how to get through stuff on your own. Not without support from others, but accomplishing it for yourself. If that makes any sense at all. If not, just know many are thinking of you often!

[Alysser]

I am sorry you guys had such a bad day, I was so happy to hear about your good ones. Please keep fighting through them, because there really is a light at the end of the tunnel. Your life improvement is JUST around the corner. KEEP it up, ladies!

and REMEMBER to SMILE:


I am sorry if I am hijacking this thread with Mikey pics. I hope they are making you feel even the slighest bit better and making that SMILE grow
If so, I GOT plenty more where that came from!

(((Hugs))) and hope tomorrow is a better day for you BOTH!

[rosethecopycat]

Keep'em coming.

We like Mikey.

[Queen of Poop]

Keep'em coming.

We like Mikey.

I second that. A slightly better day today, still very near tears, they're mostly of frustration today. But seeing Mikey's picture now made me smile so please don't stop them.

[Queen of Poop]

I came back to look at Mikey again for my daily dog fix!!! Thanks, that picture still makes me smile.

Spent an hour and a half with my counsellor this evening. OMG she is wonderful. I can't sleep because my body wants me to deal with what all has gone on. She will help me with that and eventually I will sleep again. Basically he has traumatized me and recovery is possible. She says I need to get angry and try to stay there for a while, it will help to get healthy.

I also made the trek to my divorce lawyers today, paid the fee, left her his paperwork, my list of what I want and a few other details. I have an appointment with her Monday.

[Karen]

Sounds like a good, productive day. All important steps toward a better future.

[Pinot's Mom]

And how are you two on this wonderful Thursday?

[Queen of Poop]

And how are you two on this wonderful Thursday?

I am doing much better after my counselling session last evening. Thank you for asking! I am getting my nails done tonight and am really looking forward to that. There should be nothing going on today with regard to him so it looks to be a really good day.

Rose, how are you my dear?

Mikey, still love that last picture, it makes me smile every time!

[ChrisH]

Gayle & Rose I have just been reading through this for the first time and may I say I think you are both incredible women and, though you may not think so, are really doing so well on that road to fuller and much better life.

I will be keeping you both in my prayers.
Love and

[Queen of Poop]

Back for my morning Mikey fix!!

Got bad news last night, my mom's sister's cancer has returned and she has been given 2-6 months to live.

When it rains it pours. Hello, angels above, I'm getting tired of being WET!!! Need some help here, please!! Won't someone pay attention??

I looked back in my posts and discovered that the California incident was in 2008!!!! From that I have been able to piece together what has gone on since them. I was sure it was longer ago than that.

Feeling really tired, kind of hungry and a yet bit stronger today than yesterday.

[Queen of Poop]

My workbook came today. It is called: Healing the Trauma of Domestic Violence, a workbook for women.

In the first few pages it is bang on.

Hopefully working thru this will help me heal.

Still loving the Mikey photo!

[Catherinedana]

When it rains it pours. Hello, angels above, I'm getting tired of being WET!!! Need some help here, please!! Won't someone pay attention??

They are paying attention, dear lady. They have opened your eyes and your heart to your predicament. They have brought you back to life. And sometimes life hurts very, very much. But then you heal and you are stronger, wiser and even more beautiful than ever before.


Cathy

[Catty1]

Prayers for your aunt, Gayle. Did she smoke also?

Even if she did, it just sucks and is sad! HUGS

Hope you are doing well, Rose!

[rosethecopycat]

Well,

I went to read the settlement document over today. Didn't make it very far before bursting into tears.


We, Rosemary Lupo Rottmayer and Christopher Allen Rottmayer, being sworn, certify that the following statements are true:

1. We were married to each other on February 22, 1998.
2. Because of irreconcilable differences in our marriage (no chance of staying together), we have made this agreement to settle once and for all what we owe to each other and what we can expect to receive from each other.

I am SO sad.

I am still staggered by the swiftness and ease with which he discarded me.

I am getting to the point, with friends I've spoken with, are telling me to: not to be angry, or hateful. Not to let it ruin my life. I have to go out and try new things (I have crippling introversion)
None of that is appealing right now.
The reality is that no one can know how empty my life feels right now.

Gayle I'm happy there is a book out there that addresses what you've gone through. I cannot IMAGINE. And your therapy session sounds hopeful too.
Thinking of you.

This part is for you Richard-
A positive step. Trying to get tough....

With the Holidays rapidly approaching, and me not wanting to celebrate nor have them pass as any ordinary day. I am going to volunteer to feed the needy somewhere. At the very least, I can be helpful to someone.