Where I'm at now...something positive

[Queen of Poop]

Relax, breathe, relax, breathe...

Your lawyer knew this was coming; it's what they're paid for. You are not to stress with this. Think of it as a real estate transaction: when you're buying a house, what is your first "offer" to the seller? You want them to pay EVERYTHING and you pay bottom dollar. This is what your husband is trying to pull. RELAX. It's part of the process...let your lawyer stress...get all your ducks in a row, fight the good fight, and lean on your lawyer...and vent here!

I think he figured he had me downtrodden enough that I'd just roll over and give up. He doesn't realize he's awoken the fighting spirit in me. I'm completely calm, but I have a fire inside now. Everything will be done properly, thru the lawyer, but I'm not laying down to die.

[rosethecopycat]

I think he figured he had me downtrodden enough that I'd just roll over and give up. He doesn't realize he's awoken the fighting spirit in me. I'm completely calm, but I have a fire inside now. Everything will be done properly, thru the lawyer, but I'm not laying down to die.

I'm glad you've got that spirit Gayle.

In my state it is a 50/50 divorce rule too. But my husband seems to think it means equal, when in actuality it means equitable or fair.
There's quite a big difference in the two.

Your husband is playing poker now. He's starting off high, so he has somewhere to drop back to. Why not ask for it all, to see if by chance you get it?
There is domestic abuse in your case, which changes matters also.
Hand it all over to your lawyer, the worry and anxiety.

We are thinking of you..

[Pinot's Mom]

We're thinking of both of you - you're doing very well!

[Queen of Poop]

I've got my list more or less done. I'm giving it a rest and will review it tomorrow for delivery to my lawyer Tuesday. I worked out with my personal trainer yesterday, felt really good to slam a medicine ball into the floor. Went to hot yoga this morning for 90 minutes, wow, it was great but HOT!!! I'm still pretty angry when I think about it, but I'm also very teary yesterday and today. My birthday is tomorrow and this one's just going to suck. Tuesday will be a month since Sasha died and that's weighing heavily on me too.

[Daisy and Delilah]

Hang in there ladies!! You can do this!!!
{{{{{GAYLE AND ROSE}}}}}

[Queen of Poop]

Got my name off the phone in his house. Got my new phone number and a great deal from the phone company. The day is starting off well.

[Catty1]

WOOHOO!

Will (hopefully) be back home in a couple of days, and hope I can catch up with you then.

Are you eating, young lady?

Rose - are you eating too?

You each just lost over 100 lbs in nasty fat - and I don't mean your figures!

At some point, go back to your first posts and see how far you have come!

[RICHARD]

My birthday is tomorrow and this one's just going to suck.

NASA is going to shoot off a giant candle on your birthday and you are sad?

[Queen of Poop]

NASA is going to shoot off a giant candle on your birthday and you are sad?

Actually it's going way better than I had thought.

[rosethecopycat]

NASA is going to shoot off a giant candle on your birthday and you are sad?

I saw Gayle's candle from my house today.

[Queen of Poop]

I saw Gayle's candle from my house today.

Seriously??? That is so cool.

How are you doing Rose?

I'm still having a good day, kind of scary.

Lawyers tomorrow - yikes!

[Daisy and Delilah]

I saw Gayle's candle from my house today.

I did too, Rose. It was awesome wasn't it? I hope you ladies are both having a fabulous day!!