Where I'm at now...something positive

**Queen of Poop** · 11-13-2009, 07:15 PM

Got his version of divorce papers today. He want's it all, everything, lock, stock and barrel only to leave me with NOTHING!!!

Fortunately Alberta law provides 50/50.

I am steaming mad now. I will spend tonight and this weekend finishing up my stuff for my lawyer. No more mr nice guy. Gloves are off.

He poked the bear, the bear is not impressed.

**Karen** · 11-13-2009, 07:22 PM

Originally Posted by Queen of Poop

Got his version of divorce papers today. He want's it all, everything, lock, stock and barrel only to leave me with NOTHING!!!

Fortunately Alberta law provides 50/50.

I am steaming mad now. I will spend tonight and this weekend finishing up my stuff for my lawyer. No more mr nice guy. Gloves are off.

He poked the bear, the bear is not impressed.

I am glad you not only know the law, but are willing to fight. I wonder if his lawyer advised him to ask for everything, so you'd be happy if you got anything. Anyway, we'll of course be pulling for you to get as much as possible.

**Daisy and Delilah** · 11-13-2009, 09:42 PM

{{{{{GAYLE}}}}} The nerve of some people. Grrrrrrrrrrrr.......

Gayle and Rose::::You two will prevail!!!

**Pinot's Mom** · 11-13-2009, 09:56 PM

Originally Posted by Queen of Poop

Got his version of divorce papers today. He want's it all, everything, lock, stock and barrel only to leave me with NOTHING!!!

Fortunately Alberta law provides 50/50.

I am steaming mad now. I will spend tonight and this weekend finishing up my stuff for my lawyer. No more mr nice guy. Gloves are off.

He poked the bear, the bear is not impressed.

Relax, breathe, relax, breathe...

Your lawyer knew this was coming; it's what they're paid for. You are not to stress with this. Think of it as a real estate transaction: when you're buying a house, what is your first "offer" to the seller? You want them to pay EVERYTHING and you pay bottom dollar. This is what your husband is trying to pull. RELAX. It's part of the process...let your lawyer stress...get all your ducks in a row, fight the good fight, and lean on your lawyer...and vent here!

**Queen of Poop** · 11-13-2009, 10:03 PM

Originally Posted by Pinot's Mom

Relax, breathe, relax, breathe...

Your lawyer knew this was coming; it's what they're paid for. You are not to stress with this. Think of it as a real estate transaction: when you're buying a house, what is your first "offer" to the seller? You want them to pay EVERYTHING and you pay bottom dollar. This is what your husband is trying to pull. RELAX. It's part of the process...let your lawyer stress...get all your ducks in a row, fight the good fight, and lean on your lawyer...and vent here!

I think he figured he had me downtrodden enough that I'd just roll over and give up. He doesn't realize he's awoken the fighting spirit in me. I'm completely calm, but I have a fire inside now. Everything will be done properly, thru the lawyer, but I'm not laying down to die.

**rosethecopycat** · 11-14-2009, 12:46 AM

Originally Posted by Queen of Poop

I think he figured he had me downtrodden enough that I'd just roll over and give up. He doesn't realize he's awoken the fighting spirit in me. I'm completely calm, but I have a fire inside now. Everything will be done properly, thru the lawyer, but I'm not laying down to die.

I'm glad you've got that spirit Gayle.

In my state it is a 50/50 divorce rule too. But my husband seems to think it means equal, when in actuality it means equitable or fair.
There's quite a big difference in the two.

Your husband is playing poker now. He's starting off high, so he has somewhere to drop back to. Why not ask for it all, to see if by chance you get it?
There is domestic abuse in your case, which changes matters also.
Hand it all over to your lawyer, the worry and anxiety.

We are thinking of you..

**Pinot's Mom** · 11-14-2009, 04:49 PM

We're thinking of both of you - you're doing very well!

**Queen of Poop** · 11-15-2009, 07:40 PM

I've got my list more or less done. I'm giving it a rest and will review it tomorrow for delivery to my lawyer Tuesday. I worked out with my personal trainer yesterday, felt really good to slam a medicine ball into the floor. Went to hot yoga this morning for 90 minutes, wow, it was great but HOT!!! I'm still pretty angry when I think about it, but I'm also very teary yesterday and today. My birthday is tomorrow and this one's just going to suck. Tuesday will be a month since Sasha died and that's weighing heavily on me too.