Where I'm at now...something positive

[Daisy and Delilah]

As far as sleep goes, I think you have to have a clear mind to sleep well. Not always the case but it sure is for me.

Have you ladies considered something like Ambien or Lunesta temporarily until you get past this difficult part? I don't think either are considered habit forming but they may be psychologically if nothing else. I'm not sure. Sleep deprivation is terrible for anybody and especially someone that's living through heavy stress.

I have insomnia so I have to use meidcation or I would never sleep. It's so hard. Best wishes to both of you.

[Queen of Poop]

I don't know about Rose, but I've seen my doctor twice now and he refuses to provide sleep meds. Believes it will work itself out eventually. If I start falling asleep at work however I am to go see him right away.

I know it's caused by everything that's going on, it is a struggle every day to focus my mind on other things. Best time is when I'm really busy at work cause then I can focus on that and not my tragedy.

[rosethecopycat]

I personally am not going to start taking prescription anything. I will be needing to secure health insurance for myself, and it's going to be disastrous, if I can get a policy at all. So, no anti-depressants or meds of any kind, unfortunately.
I wish I could use some brain bleach and get one good night's sleep. I know it won't be tonight, because of the lawyer appt in the morning.

[Karen]

Give yourself a good workout now, and then a nice warm cup of herbal (no caffeine) tea or hot cocoa right before bed.

If your brain keeps going, keep a pad of paper and pen by the bed table, so you can just write things down, then your brain may feel it can relax, and you can get some sleep.

[Queen of Poop]

Rose, pass me your worries for tonight and get a good nights sleep. I have nothing important tomorrow so if I'm kept up by both of our worries it will be ok.

You will do fine tomorrow.

[Queen of Poop]

Good luck today Rose!! I hope it all goes well.

Hoping also that you were able to sleep last night.

[Pinot's Mom]

Give yourself a good workout now, and then a nice warm cup of herbal (no caffeine) tea or hot cocoa right before bed.

If your brain keeps going, keep a pad of paper and pen by the bed table, so you can just write things down, then your brain may feel it can relax, and you can get some sleep.

I gave this advice in another thread! It actually works well!! Good luck to both of you!!

[Daisy and Delilah]

GOOD LUCK ROSE!!! Wishing you both all the best as always!!

[Queen of Poop]

Still thinking of you Rose. Hope all is well.

My first appointment with the Divorce Lawyer is November 23 at 2:30 pm. It's a fair walk from my office, so hopefully it won't be blowing snow that day!

Otherwise I am doing ok. Still in the anger phase, I think it might last a while. Looking forward to seeing my old counsellor on November 18. I think she will be able to help me immensely.

[Queen of Poop]

How did it go Rose? Are you ok?

[rosethecopycat]

Well, that appointment wasn't what I thought it would be.
I got, in effect, a load of homework. And this is supposed to be THE simplest way to get a divorce. The settlement, that I worked up, was not revealed. We both have to fill out financial affidavits and return them. Then there is a settlement form that has to be filled out after. So I'm wondering how I can get my wording into the form. It's just a who-gets-what thing, I think. But I want wording in there such as: if you take the ceiling speakers, you will have the drywall professionally repaired.

I can't stand the sight of my so-called husband now. This is all so stunningly fast. I was so in love with him only 7-8 weeks ago. How could this have happened? My lawyer kept on asking me if I was o.k. I was in just a stupor. Everything about my 'husband' bothered me. From his stretching and yawning, to him saying that he wants to 'respect' me.
Last night he was in the house, on the phone, and Mr. Jones, the Tux, was near him and he says: Mr. Jones, come say Hi to Ashley on the phone. Do you hear him, Ashley, he's being all lovey..
I feel personally breached, like she was in my house touching my cat.
That is not respect. You would never expect this from this man, who was so cheery and well liked. It's like a totally different person.

So, the lawyer says we need to 'drag our feet' till the New Year for tax purposes. Fine. Within the next few weeks he will see the settlement. He better go for it. He saw me pay the lawyer $750 today, which I do not have.

Thank you Gayle for taking on my worries, but you need to think about you!
I hope you sleep better and your days become a bit brighter, each one.

[Queen of Poop]

I think the fact that you can't stand him is showing that you're moving on to the next phase! It's a good thing. How absolutely rude to be in your house talking to HER!!! And to behave like an idiot while he's doing it. Gross me out!!

Don't worry dear, I think about me and my issues morning, noon and night. It is nice to take a break from it to have concern for you and your situation.

[Daisy and Delilah]

Well, that appointment wasn't what I thought it would be.
I got, in effect, a load of homework. And this is supposed to be THE simplest way to get a divorce. The settlement, that I worked up, was not revealed. We both have to fill out financial affidavits and return them. Then there is a settlement form that has to be filled out after. So I'm wondering how I can get my wording into the form. It's just a who-gets-what thing, I think. But I want wording in there such as: if you take the ceiling speakers, you will have the drywall professionally repaired.

I can't stand the sight of my so-called husband now. This is all so stunningly fast. I was so in love with him only 7-8 weeks ago. How could this have happened? My lawyer kept on asking me if I was o.k. I was in just a stupor. Everything about my 'husband' bothered me. From his stretching and yawning, to him saying that he wants to 'respect' me.
Last night he was in the house, on the phone, and Mr. Jones, the Tux, was near him and he says: Mr. Jones, come say Hi to Ashley on the phone. Do you hear him, Ashley, he's being all lovey..
I feel personally breached, like she was in my house touching my cat.
That is not respect. You would never expect this from this man, who was so cheery and well liked. It's like a totally different person.

So, the lawyer says we need to 'drag our feet' till the New Year for tax purposes. Fine. Within the next few weeks he will see the settlement. He better go for it. He saw me pay the lawyer $750 today, which I do not have.

Thank you Gayle for taking on my worries, but you need to think about you!
I hope you sleep better and your days become a bit brighter, each one.

This makes me sick too!!!! Grrrrrrrrrrrr

[Queen of Poop]

Had alot of difficulty yesterday accepting the reality of what's gone on. Doing better this morning. It will be nice when the ups and downs even out some.

[rosethecopycat]

Had alot of difficulty yesterday accepting the reality of what's gone on. Doing better this morning. It will be nice when the ups and downs even out some.

Same here, Gayle.
I am in the sheer disbelief mode this morning, after two days of disgust.