Where I'm at now...something positive

[rosethecopycat]

Well, that appointment wasn't what I thought it would be.
I got, in effect, a load of homework. And this is supposed to be THE simplest way to get a divorce. The settlement, that I worked up, was not revealed. We both have to fill out financial affidavits and return them. Then there is a settlement form that has to be filled out after. So I'm wondering how I can get my wording into the form. It's just a who-gets-what thing, I think. But I want wording in there such as: if you take the ceiling speakers, you will have the drywall professionally repaired.

I can't stand the sight of my so-called husband now. This is all so stunningly fast. I was so in love with him only 7-8 weeks ago. How could this have happened? My lawyer kept on asking me if I was o.k. I was in just a stupor. Everything about my 'husband' bothered me. From his stretching and yawning, to him saying that he wants to 'respect' me.
Last night he was in the house, on the phone, and Mr. Jones, the Tux, was near him and he says: Mr. Jones, come say Hi to Ashley on the phone. Do you hear him, Ashley, he's being all lovey..
I feel personally breached, like she was in my house touching my cat.
That is not respect. You would never expect this from this man, who was so cheery and well liked. It's like a totally different person.

So, the lawyer says we need to 'drag our feet' till the New Year for tax purposes. Fine. Within the next few weeks he will see the settlement. He better go for it. He saw me pay the lawyer $750 today, which I do not have.

Thank you Gayle for taking on my worries, but you need to think about you!
I hope you sleep better and your days become a bit brighter, each one.

[Queen of Poop]

I think the fact that you can't stand him is showing that you're moving on to the next phase! It's a good thing. How absolutely rude to be in your house talking to HER!!! And to behave like an idiot while he's doing it. Gross me out!!

Don't worry dear, I think about me and my issues morning, noon and night. It is nice to take a break from it to have concern for you and your situation.

[Daisy and Delilah]

Well, that appointment wasn't what I thought it would be.
I got, in effect, a load of homework. And this is supposed to be THE simplest way to get a divorce. The settlement, that I worked up, was not revealed. We both have to fill out financial affidavits and return them. Then there is a settlement form that has to be filled out after. So I'm wondering how I can get my wording into the form. It's just a who-gets-what thing, I think. But I want wording in there such as: if you take the ceiling speakers, you will have the drywall professionally repaired.

I can't stand the sight of my so-called husband now. This is all so stunningly fast. I was so in love with him only 7-8 weeks ago. How could this have happened? My lawyer kept on asking me if I was o.k. I was in just a stupor. Everything about my 'husband' bothered me. From his stretching and yawning, to him saying that he wants to 'respect' me.
Last night he was in the house, on the phone, and Mr. Jones, the Tux, was near him and he says: Mr. Jones, come say Hi to Ashley on the phone. Do you hear him, Ashley, he's being all lovey..
I feel personally breached, like she was in my house touching my cat.
That is not respect. You would never expect this from this man, who was so cheery and well liked. It's like a totally different person.

So, the lawyer says we need to 'drag our feet' till the New Year for tax purposes. Fine. Within the next few weeks he will see the settlement. He better go for it. He saw me pay the lawyer $750 today, which I do not have.

Thank you Gayle for taking on my worries, but you need to think about you!
I hope you sleep better and your days become a bit brighter, each one.

This makes me sick too!!!! Grrrrrrrrrrrr

[Queen of Poop]

Had alot of difficulty yesterday accepting the reality of what's gone on. Doing better this morning. It will be nice when the ups and downs even out some.

[rosethecopycat]

Had alot of difficulty yesterday accepting the reality of what's gone on. Doing better this morning. It will be nice when the ups and downs even out some.

Same here, Gayle.
I am in the sheer disbelief mode this morning, after two days of disgust.

[Queen of Poop]

My accomplishments today:
Bought a floor lamp and put it together all by myself. It has glass shelves and its pretty cool.
Went to a local mall and met my friend from Medicine Hat for tea.

A good day for me.

How was your day Rose?

[rosethecopycat]

My accomplishments today:
Bought a floor lamp and put it together all by myself. It has glass shelves and its pretty cool.
Went to a local mall and met my friend from Medicine Hat for tea.

A good day for me.

How was your day Rose?

My dear neighbor was showing me how to maintain the swimming pool. I was scrubbing the sides, cleaning the filter, adding chlorine, etc. All things my 'husband' has left me holding the bag with.
Then we cut back the neighbors shrubs and I made a dinner for us.
It felt good to be with another person, conversation, chit chat.
One less day of being completely alone, is how I have to look at it.

Tomorrow we are going to move furniture around, and I am going to switch bedrooms.

Nice to hear you had a good teatime, Gayle.
I had two cuppas with my British neighbor fellow today.

[RICHARD]

I have been following this thread and want to ask Rose and QoP a question.

This question was posed to me once-I got the point quickly.

It didn't eliminate the sting of a person downgrading the relationship.
Matter of fact, it made me laugh and I've 'carried' the advice/lesson in my heart since then.


Ready?

Were you born alone?

It's not meant as an insult......My mom told me that years ago when I was all bent out of shoot over a woman.

Yep, I was born alone.


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Both of you are going to be measured by what happens in the next few months. You have opened up to the PTers here and you may have made a mistake.

We EXPECT the both you to get thru this and prove to us and yourselves that you will survive.

Life effing sucks today.

I am betting it may suck tomorrow.

And maybe Monday will suck even more.
It's only a temporary thing.

Every day won't suck.


Really, how can things suck when your pool is clean and you cleaned it better that the previous pool 'boy'?

[Queen of Poop]

Good going Rose. Now you're the "pool girl"!!!! Way to go!! I'm sure you'll do a much better job at it than he ever did.

Moving furniture sounds like a great idea. Out with the old way in the the new "Rose" way.

My friend Anne called this afternoon, she said she could take me for my colonoscopy in December and asked if I could help her paint next weekend.

What I am truly enjoying is having the TV all to myself. No more watching reruns of half hour sitcoms over and over again. Can't get enough CSI, Criminal Minds and football/hockey.

Wish though that I could stop the mini movies that have been plaguing my mind today. Little flicks of bad times. They invade when I least expect them. They are annoying me to no end.

[Alysser]

I am so glad things are looking up for you! KEEP it up

Rose, once he's out life will be good Take it one day at a time!

[RICHARD]

To make up for my behavior I would like to dedicate a song...

Up! by Shania Twain.

It's 'bout as bad as it could be
Seems everybody's buggin' me
Like nothing wants to go my way
Yeah, it just ain't been my day
Nothin's comin' easily

Even my skin is acting weird
I wish that I could grow a beard
Then I could cover up my spots
Not play connect the dots
I just wanna disappear

Up--up--up--
Can only go up from here
Up--up--up--Up
where the clouds gonna clear
Up--up--up--
There's no way but up from here

Even something as simple as
Forgettin' to fill up on gas
There ain't no explanation why
Things like that can make you cry
Just gotta learn to have a laugh


When everything is goin' wrong
Don't worry, it won't last for long
Yeah, it's all gonna come around
Don't go let it get you down
You gotta keep on holding on

It's 'bout as bad as it could be
Seems everybody's buggin' me
Like nothing wants to go my way
Yeah, it just ain't been my day
Nothin's comin' easily

Up--up--up--
Can only go up from here
Up--up--up--Up
where the clouds gonna clear
Up--up--up--
There's no way but up from here

Oh-- I'm going up
Oh-- I'm going up
Oh-- I'm going up
Oh-- I'm going up
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah...

[Daisy and Delilah]

Keeping on keeping on , ladies!!!! You both are doing fantastic. Keep thinking positive about your wonderful new lives ahead. Hard to see now but not far away!!!

[gini]

Girls - just keep in mind that many of us are following this thread and we are behind you every step on the way. You are doing great and we are all so proud of you. You go girls!!!

[joycenalex]

rose and gayle, i am sending you middle of the night thoughts and cyber hugs...

[Medusa]

Too bad that you're not in Ohio because you could come to my home. Perhaps the two of you could get together and invite others who may not have anywhere to go for the holidays. When I got divorced, no one invited me so I decided to do the inviting. It was lovely and I've done it every year since.