Where I'm at now...something positive

**Queen of Poop** · 11-05-2009, 02:19 PM

Still thinking of you Rose. Hope all is well.

My first appointment with the Divorce Lawyer is November 23 at 2:30 pm. It's a fair walk from my office, so hopefully it won't be blowing snow that day!

Otherwise I am doing ok. Still in the anger phase, I think it might last a while. Looking forward to seeing my old counsellor on November 18. I think she will be able to help me immensely.

**Queen of Poop** · 11-05-2009, 09:12 PM

How did it go Rose? Are you ok?

**rosethecopycat** · 11-05-2009, 09:13 PM

Well, that appointment wasn't what I thought it would be.
I got, in effect, a load of homework. And this is supposed to be THE simplest way to get a divorce. The settlement, that I worked up, was not revealed. We both have to fill out financial affidavits and return them. Then there is a settlement form that has to be filled out after. So I'm wondering how I can get my wording into the form. It's just a who-gets-what thing, I think. But I want wording in there such as: if you take the ceiling speakers, you will have the drywall professionally repaired.

I can't stand the sight of my so-called husband now. This is all so stunningly fast. I was so in love with him only 7-8 weeks ago. How could this have happened? My lawyer kept on asking me if I was o.k. I was in just a stupor. Everything about my 'husband' bothered me. From his stretching and yawning, to him saying that he wants to 'respect' me.
Last night he was in the house, on the phone, and Mr. Jones, the Tux, was near him and he says: Mr. Jones, come say Hi to Ashley on the phone. Do you hear him, Ashley, he's being all lovey..
I feel personally breached, like she was in my house touching my cat.
That is not respect. You would never expect this from this man, who was so cheery and well liked. It's like a totally different person.

So, the lawyer says we need to 'drag our feet' till the New Year for tax purposes. Fine. Within the next few weeks he will see the settlement. He better go for it. He saw me pay the lawyer $750 today, which I do not have.

Thank you Gayle for taking on my worries, but you need to think about you!
I hope you sleep better and your days become a bit brighter, each one.

**Queen of Poop** · 11-05-2009, 09:20 PM

I think the fact that you can't stand him is showing that you're moving on to the next phase! It's a good thing. How absolutely rude to be in your house talking to HER!!! And to behave like an idiot while he's doing it. Gross me out!!

Don't worry dear, I think about me and my issues morning, noon and night. It is nice to take a break from it to have concern for you and your situation.

**Daisy and Delilah** · 11-05-2009, 11:25 PM

Originally Posted by rosethecopycat

Well, that appointment wasn't what I thought it would be.
I got, in effect, a load of homework. And this is supposed to be THE simplest way to get a divorce. The settlement, that I worked up, was not revealed. We both have to fill out financial affidavits and return them. Then there is a settlement form that has to be filled out after. So I'm wondering how I can get my wording into the form. It's just a who-gets-what thing, I think. But I want wording in there such as: if you take the ceiling speakers, you will have the drywall professionally repaired.

I can't stand the sight of my so-called husband now. This is all so stunningly fast. I was so in love with him only 7-8 weeks ago. How could this have happened? My lawyer kept on asking me if I was o.k. I was in just a stupor. Everything about my 'husband' bothered me. From his stretching and yawning, to him saying that he wants to 'respect' me.
Last night he was in the house, on the phone, and Mr. Jones, the Tux, was near him and he says: Mr. Jones, come say Hi to Ashley on the phone. Do you hear him, Ashley, he's being all lovey..
I feel personally breached, like she was in my house touching my cat.
That is not respect. You would never expect this from this man, who was so cheery and well liked. It's like a totally different person.

So, the lawyer says we need to 'drag our feet' till the New Year for tax purposes. Fine. Within the next few weeks he will see the settlement. He better go for it. He saw me pay the lawyer $750 today, which I do not have.

Thank you Gayle for taking on my worries, but you need to think about you!
I hope you sleep better and your days become a bit brighter, each one.

This makes me sick too!!!! Grrrrrrrrrrrr

**Queen of Poop** · 11-07-2009, 07:35 AM

Had alot of difficulty yesterday accepting the reality of what's gone on. Doing better this morning. It will be nice when the ups and downs even out some.

**rosethecopycat** · 11-07-2009, 08:49 AM

Originally Posted by Queen of Poop

Had alot of difficulty yesterday accepting the reality of what's gone on. Doing better this morning. It will be nice when the ups and downs even out some.

Same here, Gayle.
I am in the sheer disbelief mode this morning, after two days of disgust.

**Queen of Poop** · 11-07-2009, 05:58 PM

My accomplishments today:
Bought a floor lamp and put it together all by myself. It has glass shelves and its pretty cool.
Went to a local mall and met my friend from Medicine Hat for tea.

A good day for me.

How was your day Rose?

**rosethecopycat** · 11-07-2009, 06:46 PM

Originally Posted by Queen of Poop

My accomplishments today:
Bought a floor lamp and put it together all by myself. It has glass shelves and its pretty cool.
Went to a local mall and met my friend from Medicine Hat for tea.

A good day for me.

How was your day Rose?

My dear neighbor was showing me how to maintain the swimming pool. I was scrubbing the sides, cleaning the filter, adding chlorine, etc. All things my 'husband' has left me holding the bag with.
Then we cut back the neighbors shrubs and I made a dinner for us.
It felt good to be with another person, conversation, chit chat.
One less day of being completely alone, is how I have to look at it.

Tomorrow we are going to move furniture around, and I am going to switch bedrooms.

Nice to hear you had a good teatime, Gayle.
I had two cuppas with my British neighbor fellow today.

**Alysser** · 11-08-2009, 01:22 PM

I am so glad things are looking up for you!

KEEP it up

Rose, once he's out life will be good

Take it one day at a time!

**Daisy and Delilah** · 11-08-2009, 07:42 PM

Keeping on keeping on , ladies!!!! You both are doing fantastic. Keep thinking positive about your wonderful new lives ahead. Hard to see now but not far away!!!