It's over...

[Queen of Poop]

... my marriage that is.

It's about time for it to be done. No more abuse.

Hiding out in Sundre at my parents right now.

Feeling awful, hurt, can't believe things are what they are.

Managed though to get an air card so I can get back online.

[Karen]

Sending you great big hugs. Anything we can do from here, you let us know. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is also the best thing for you, and this sounds like one of those times.

More hugs, and we are proud of you, it takes a lot of courage to walk away.

[Catty1]

{{{{hugs}}}} I had wondered how you were, and was praying for you the whole time.

Do you have any friends who could foster your furbabies until you are settled? Anyone I can contact for you?

HUGS and let us know what you need!

[Grace]

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
You've just done the toughest thing - walking away.

[pomtzu]

Sometimes the easiest solution is one of the most difficult things to do. Walking away before it gets worse is sometimes the only way.

I hope things will get better for you now. Good luck and God bless.

[Medusa]

I don't know the details and I don't need to know because I would never pry into your personal affairs. Just know that my prayers are going up that you'll find peace in your heart, mind, soul and life. Divorce is never easy but sometimes it is necessary. Your PT family is here for you. (((HUGS))) Keep the faythe.

[Queen of Poop]

Thank you everyone. I'm darn near falling apart now. Candace, I don't really have any friends, that wasn't allowed so I have loads of work to do now. I need to find a place in Calgary so I can get back to work. For now, the kittens, Sasha and I will stay here with my parents while I try to get my life together. I just wish I didn't feel so awful.

[Karen]

You have us, dear one! Count on all of us for any emotional support we can give you, okay? Just making that decision I am sure took every ounce of strength you had left. Have a nice cup of tea - or hot chocolate - and when you inhale the steam, think the following:

I am a good person
My animals love me, need me, and count on me
There are people in this world who love me
I am worthy of friendship and respect
I am a survivor
Every day after this one will be better, and better
Pet Talkers love me!

[caseysmom]

Your doing the right thing, hang in there and keep your head up. {{hugs}}

[DJFyrewolf36]

My prayers are with you *HUGS*

[KYS]

As Medusa said, Divorce is never easy but sometimes necessary.
Sending you (((hugs.)))

[Catty1]

Gayle, this is for adult children of alcoholics. Even if alcohol is not a factor, there is strength in here that I hope you find.

Personal Bill of Rights

1. I have a right to all those good times that I have longed for all these years and didn’t get.
2. I have a right to joy in this life, right here, right now — not just a momentary rush of euphoria but something more substantive.
3. I have a right to relax and have fun in a nonalcoholic and nondestructive way.
4. I have a right to actively pursue people, places, and situations that will help me in achieving a good life.
5. I have the right to say no whenever I feel something is not safe or I am not ready.
6. I have a right to not participate in either the active or passive “crazy-making” behavior of parents, of siblings, and of others.
7. I have a right to take calculated risks and to experiment with new strategies.
8. I have a right to change my tune, my strategy, and my funny equations.
9. I have a right to “mess up”; to make mistakes, to “blow it”, to disappoint myself, and to fall short of the mark.
10. I have a right to leave the company of people who deliberately or inadvertently put me down, lay a guilt trip on me, manipulate or humiliate me, including my alcoholic relative, my nonalcoholic relatives, or any other member of my family.
11. I have a right to put an end to conversations with people who make me feel put down and humiliated.
12. I have a right to all my feelings.
13. I have a right to trust my feelings, my judgment, my hunches, my intuition.
14. I have a right to develop myself as a whole person emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically, and psychologically.
15. I have a right to express all my feelings in a nondestructive way and at a safe time and place.
16. I have a right to as much time as I need to experiment with this new information and these new ideas and to initiate changes in my life.
17. I have a right to sort out the bill of goods my parents sold me — to take the acceptable and dump the unacceptable.
18. I have a right to a mentally healthy, sane way of existence, though it will deviate in part, or all, from my parents' prescribed philosophy of life.
19. I have a right to carve out my place in this world.
20. I have a right to follow any of the above rights, to live my life the way I want to, and not wait until my alcoholic relative gets well, gets happy, seeks help, or admits there is a problem.

[cassiesmom]

As Medusa said - I don't know the details - but I'm praying and sending (((HUGS))) for you.

[blue]

I can think of a few web sites where members would be grabbing rubber hoses, sharpening pitchforks, lighting torches and heading to the soon to be ex's house.

QOP, good for you for getting out. Stay strong.

[Daisy and Delilah]

I've also wondered for a long time how things were going at your house, Gayle. I am so glad to hear you've made this choice. Like blue said:::Stay Strong!! We're here for you. PM to me is always open and I'll be ready. You've done the right thing. No one deserves to be treated like you have and especially for so long.