I just can't believe this...panic in gut UPDATE: #22; finally an email

[pomtzu]

Thank you again, EVERYONE.

I felt kind of weird a bit after posting the emails - I did NOT want to be a drama queen...but there they were, so I left them.

And you all are right. I am getting the lock changed. I haven't heard from the handyman yet (N is still in the other city, so even if he left now it is 15 hrs straight driving), so I will call the property manager and ask her if I can buy a single deadbolt myself. I have my Reader's Digest book - they look pretty easy to install!

His personal property - clothing, coffee pot, lamp etc - are stored at a friend's place in a locked garage. So he knows where it is.

I just have to pack up his books. As for the equipment - laser printer needs a cartridge, but is brand new, so that is mine; I am planning on selling the compute tower sans hard drive and his home theatre system. I'll put it against what he owes me.

And you are right too - he is acting like he did nothing wrong. You know the old joke about how many addicts it takes to change a light bulb? Just one - they hold it and the world turns around it!

Johanna - he's 54. So there ya go. And yes, a lot of this stuff has to be learned with the heart and spirit - like ACCOUNTABILITY.

If other people want to post here, that's great. But we can also let this thread move down the ladder and PMs are welcome.

Clearer head today, cold and cough notwithstanding.

Thank you again with all my heart.

I hope he doesn't try to get back at you for selling his electronics, but then he left the things there, with no obvious intention of returning, so he probably lost his legal right to them.
I'd check it out from a legal standpoint tho, just to CYOA!

[Catty1]

pomtzu - am doing that. Mom, Mary and you have all suggested that!

[jennielynn1970]

Gosh Candace, I'm reading all this now, and all I can think is, change the locks, and don't look back. Seriously. It sounds like he's just going to drag you down with him where ever he is going to. And "forgetting" to sign the check... sure. Whatever on that one. I'm not buying it.

Get any money back that you can, get the locks changed, sell what remains, and don't look back. You deserve much more than what he has to offer you.

Hugs... Jenn