An email! I will post the one I sent August 29th, and his reply just now, today, September 2nd.

Hi, N:

I miss you and hope you come home.

If we need to make a decision, let's talk. If you want, we can meet with Harry or Greg[chaplain/priest].

It's been a hard go the last little while. I get very uptight about finances - one of my defects - and I am sorry I took that out on you. You are doing and have been doing your very best to get on your feet, and have done a great job. You have really stuck to it, and I do admire you for that.

As for my trip - the cats have been set up at a boarding kennel.

If you are definitely not coming back, and you find a place to stay here or in the city, let's please arrange to move your stuff before I leave so I can have an extra set of keys for someone.

I love you.
Hi there, I love you too.

However, I need to work some stuff out right now. I missed my kids very much as you know. I had to see them.

As far as everything else goes, I apologize. It's been rough all around.

I need you to stop contacting all my friends and acquaintances. That almost sounds like stalking lol.

As for any, all and sundry monies owing, I can only transfer $1000 at a time. You know that, it's the way the system works.

...I was sure I signed the check, but I probably did the same thing as D.[an employer who goofed the same way]

I'm looking for suitable full time employment or training. Turns out there's training coming available for Bookkeeping and LPN. Imagine, me, a nurse. How cool is that?

Not much else I can say for now. I heard from B.[buddy where his clothes are stored]

Talk to you later.
Norm
Hi, Norm:

I am so very glad to hear from you. I just didn't know what was going on. L didn't mention you gonig to see your kids. I hope you had a good visit.

I wanted to work things out, Norm. Even if you stayed somewhere else in town - and we met.

Should I not change the lock on this door? The cats will be boarded while I am away. But with you seeming to totally disappear and leaving all your stuff here, I was making decisions on my own without your input, and I figured you were not coming back at all.

I never cared if you had just part time or full time...I understand your rush to make a lot of money quickly - I really do! (been there!) You and I could only contribute what we could. It's a beginning.

My "fraud" comment - I apologize. With no contact from you, you admitting to spending all Friday night in a casino, and your card playing online (which, yes, L told me was start of a gambling problem, which has apparently been the toughest for you to kick) - forgetting to sign a check can happen to anyone. But in this context, I hope you understand why I got frightened.

Are you in [city] right now?

I love you. But let's communicate when we can...

HUGS

Candace

PS Am not trying to stalk you...just trying to hear from you. Leaving decisions all up to my alcoholic mind is not the best idea! lol