When one dies so young, it's difficult to make sense of it. We look for the fairness in a situation and when we can't find it, we become angry and upset as the title of your thread states. I've chosen the scripture "Time and unforeseen occurrence befall us all" as my signature not because I'm a particularly religious person but because it helps me to make sense of things when it feels as though life has singled me out for misfortune. Try to take comfort in knowing that God was w/your friend in her last moments on earth. We are never alone even though sometimes it may feel as though we've been abandoned. (((HUGS))) to you from Ohio.