Kitty's reaction to my son-in-law.

[Medusa]

Interesting how he turned the situation around and called you co-dependent when he's the one who caused the problem in the first place. I'm sure that your kitty can sense how he feels about her even though he's now trying to be nice to her. I understand that this is probably a sticky situation for you because it involves family but I would be sure that my cat is nowhere in the perimeter when he's around. If she truly had been abused before she came to you, of course she's going to be erratic in her behavior around others, especially those who have no tolerance for her. Personally, I'd tell my SIL "hands off" and if he didn't like it, oh well.

[kb2yjx]

I have to agree with Medusa!!! The cat was not bothering anyone while she was eating, but your SIL did. Wonder how he would like it if he was pestered while HE was eating. Your cat was just doing what her instincts tell her to do, and that is to PROTECT herself. We have a rule in our house, that the cats live here and you are just a guest, so leave them ALONE... and if people do not like to hear that, too bad. But, I have yet to have a person complain...Too bad for the SIL that the cat remembers how he treated her. I hope, though, that eventually they both might be able to work things out. Good luck....

[katladyd]

I'm with you, kb2yjx! My boyfriend's son has cats, and they are never allowed on the furniture or in the bed, etc... He always remarks that both of us let our cats on the sofa, bed, etc.... We always tell him, this isn't your house, you don't live here, and we let YOU sit on the furniture! Why on earth would we not allow the cats, who live here, to do the same? I would ask the SIL to respect the kitty's wishes. She lives there, he doesn't. Him bringing her treats and toys may warm her up, but I doubt it. Once you get on a cat's bad side, that's usually it!

[treybabe]

Interesting how he turned the situation around and called you co-dependent when he's the one who caused the problem in the first place. I'm sure that your kitty can sense how he feels about her even though he's now trying to be nice to her. I understand that this is probably a sticky situation for you because it involves family but I would be sure that my cat is nowhere in the perimeter when he's around. If she truly had been abused before she came to you, of course she's going to be erratic in her behavior around others, especially those who have no tolerance for her. Personally, I'd tell my SIL "hands off" and if he didn't like it, oh well.

Yes, I think you are spot on. Thanks. And God bless..

[treybabe]

This is good advice. And I sure will consider it..and be sure to keep kitty and him separated. No, she doesn't like kitty treats..but that is a good idea. He doesn't live here so filling her feeding dish wouldn't have much significance for her. She doesn't attack him unless he provokes her. Thanks all of you who have replied so far.

[happylabs]

This is good advice. And I sure will consider it..and be sure to keep kitty and him separated. No, she doesn't like kitty treats..but that is a good idea. He doesn't live here so filling her feeding dish wouldn't have much significance for her. She doesn't attack him unless he provokes her. Thanks all of you who have replied so far.

Okay. So. I guess I didn't understand your first post. He is provoking her on purpose?!? That is just not nice! I would keep them separated when he is there, or, not invite him!