did anyone else think chewing gum was disrespectful, or is that an american thing? excuse me for asking but i am not sure on that one,it is so casual, yes i agree mary i really did not think they were grieving that much, except one brother ,he broke down in tears,they were a tad too composed for my liking,i would rather have seen them wailing if that is how they felt, i guess we all grieve in our own way though, and i suppose we should not be too judgemental, but that is how it looked to me.