I really need some help, please

[happylabs]

I have been through so many heart breaks so I can relate. A broken heart is the worst pain I have ever felt. I am 48 though but still can remember the high school heart breaks I had.

Guys at the high school age are just so much more immature than girls. I know this from personal experience and also I have an 18 year old daughter.

It does sound to me like maybe there is someone else in his life.
It is most likely nothing that you did or said at all.

I wish I could help more. I can relate so much to your situation. Unfortunately men do not get any easier to figure out as you get older. My husband left me after 17 years of marriage for an old college girlfriend. I have been dating off and on since and actually the men seem MORE immature at my age!

You need a hug! Hope he lets you know what is going on.

[Medusa]

It does sound to me like maybe there is someone else in his life.

Unfortunately, that was my thought as well. I'll add this: if someone doesn't talk to you at all, IMO this is too insulting. It's as though you're not worth their breath. You did nothing wrong and should not be questioning yourself. He has bad manners and owes you an explanation but don't be surprised if you never get one and it may not be the truth even if you do get one. Heartache is tough at any age but it toughens you up and makes you smarter. It is a heart ache and not a heart break. The best thing you can do is not allow him to do this to you so that when you run into him again, he'll see that he had no effect on you whatsoever, that he wasn't worth any heartache. Hang in there. The right guy will come along and will make you wonder what all the fuss was about w/the other guy. Keep the faythe.

[moosmom]

Maybe he feels like you like him seriously and he isn't ready for that...just be more laid back about him and he will probably come around.

Good point, Caseysmom!! The more I know men, the more I like my cats!!

[happylabs]

Good point, Caseysmom!! The more I know men, the more I like my cats!!

Oh yea...I agree with you 100% on that one! And, my dog Casey too. Casey is way more loving and faithful than any man I have met yet. Also, no man has ever been as happy to see me as my dog is when I get home from work!

But, you are young snowbelle and I have heard there are actually some good guys out there. Just be true to your heart and don't let the guys change your outlook on life.

[Catherinedana]

People can be very strange when it comes to relationships. I always figure, if they aren't in the same place that you are about emotions and their interactions, then it's not worth stressing over. I feel that it's a good thing you found out that he is what they call "emotionally unavailable" now rather than having invested a lot of time and effort into a relationship and then have him go all weird on you. I was married for 15 years before I realized that my husband at the time wasn't giving as good as he was getting!

As for all the negative stuff about men, people are all nuts. . .men and women! What you have to do is find the nut that suits your needs and that is the perfect match! I did! Barry and I found each other later in life and realized that all the other "junk" was just sort of a rehearsal so that we could get this one right!


Don't beat yourself up for loving someone. Just take this as a lesson learned and move on. You WILL get over it, I assure you!

A hug for you! and your heart
Cathy