I really feel for you, what a difficult situation to be in, you are really caught between a rock and hard place, you can only do your best for you sweet Sydney and it is obvious you are doing that, and that you love your kitty with all your heart, bless you, and dear Sydney , i can only hope you can find a solution that you are comfortable with and keep you in my thoughts and hope for a good outcome that will benefit Sydney, thinking of you and HUGS , i Know how hard this is for you, keep doing your research and maybe the second opinion would be a good idea.