The frustrations of needy, clingy men!!

[Medusa]

My one son was dating a stalker girl. Talk about scary. Very very low self esteem, extremely clingly. Bossy, know it all, very competative. She would show up at odd hours and just not leave. She would follow me from room to room talking, talking, never shutting up. I came down one morning and she popped up out of my sofa, she spent the night there. I was like, what the hell, why didn't you go home. My son was in his room with the door closed, she was on the sofa, it was so strange. I finally told my son that she was never ever ever ever going to be welcomed in my home again and if she set foot on my property I would call the police. Did that matter to her, not in the least. At my Christmas party she parked her car outside my house and sat there for 45 minutes while guests came. She was on the phone with my son, crying begging him to let her in and how mean and horrible I was. My son was so upset. I finally said to him,"look I told you months ago she would never be welcomed here and this is our Christmas she is NOT welcome. She just refused to leave. Finally I couldn't stand it anymore. It was horrible, I had 50 people in my house it was our Christmas party and this insane stalker wouldn't leave. I went into the garage and grabbed a bat, my intention was to smash her windshield with it and scare her. My husband said I would be arrested, I said I didn't care, it would be worth it. My one son went outside and told her what I was planning on doing. She left. Did that stop her NO. She showed up and my son's college graduation, it's a public place not much you can do. I finally made it clear to her that if she ever came near my home again I would hurt her. Finally she left, but only with the fear of extreme violence against her. No restraining order will stop these crazy people, they don't obey the law. The only thing she understood at that point was that I would hurt her. Your read about these people on TV stalking, breaking into houses, killing ex-lovers. The only thing they understand is how to dominate with fear, luckly I put a greater fear into her and now she married some poor fool. God help him and his famiy. It's funny how fear will make you angry and strong. There was no way I wa going to let her hurt us any more.

You didn't mention whether or not they met online. Did they?

[Marigold2]

They did meet on-line. This girl is highly educated and extremely talented. However her physical apprenece was not so great, very very over weight, perhaps 250 lbs and almost bald. She must be suffering from alapecia. It had a lot to do with her low self-esteem I am sure. My son didn't care that she was heavy and almost bald, he liked her a lot. I was very proud of him for that. However I am sure that she was teased by others. When she meet someone who liked her for herself and not her looks she latched onto him like a rash on a butt. Soon however it became apperent that she didn't care for him she just wanted to control him and it got ugly fast. She also has a photogragic memory. Smart and crazy. When I think back on all the manipulative things she did it makes my skin crawl. One doesn't think of a brillant person as a stalker but she was.
Later that day when I realized she had spent the night, when I got all the details, how she said good night to my son (he was going to bed) she told him " I am just going to go downstairs and hang with your mom for a bit" I then took the wash upstairs and went to bed, my husband was watching TV in our room, our daughter was in her room, she said to me " I am going to get something to drink and hang out with our son for a bit. We had all said goodnight to her, and she knew that, planned it that way, it was her intention to NOT leave my home. There we were the four of us in bed with no idea that Miss Crazy Stalker was downstairs. Oh God even now it makes me so sick to think of that. What was she doing? Going through our private paper work, snopping, planning, plotting to hurt us? So scary.
She would call my son 30 days a day, first being nice and then getting madder and madder when he didn't call back and finally just screaming. By the time the Christmas party came and she sat outside I was so done. I was afraid for my family and I was ready to take action. I wanted to make it clear 1000% percent that her presence would not be welcome not today, tomorrow or ever. I had to make her more afraid of me then I was of her that is how to get rid of a stalker.

[jennielynn1970]

Damn. That's crazy scary!!!

[jennielynn1970]

Thankfully, he hasn't tried to contact me since the day he emailed me and I told him to back the eff off or he'd be getting a visit from my brother. My brother is retired navy, and was a drill instructor and would kick his butt.