First BF, advice anyone?

**Husky_mom** · 03-06-2009, 02:30 PM

first relashinships are ackwards.... but they do get better with time... boys tend to take longer to get he idea.. hehe.. we´re just ahead on them in that field even if it´s our first bf too...

with all the common thing you have you shoud at least have a great time... just don´tt try rush him as you said he most likely doesn´t has a clue

enjoy your time and take it easy... who know what might time bring

**k9krazee** · 03-06-2009, 02:42 PM

Just take it one day at a time.

Don't expect too much at first in the way of texting and IMing, he'll come around, trust me. The first few weeks/months will be the most awkward, and it should only get better!

Good luck, but most of all, just have fun and like I said...one day at a time.

**caseysmom** · 03-06-2009, 03:11 PM

Whats this! I never told you that you could have a boyfriend, they are distracting and nothing but trouble!

**binka_nugget** · 03-06-2009, 04:08 PM

Originally Posted by caseysmom

Whats this! I never told you that you could have a boyfriend, they are distracting and nothing but trouble!

LOL They are! haha

Honesty is a must for any successful relationship. My advice is to just be open and honest about what is bothering you. He might not even realize that he's doing that. Maybe it's just me, but the men I've dated take a while to clue in.. doesn't matter how old they are.

That said, I'd give him a little bit longer to see if he's just trying to get used to a new relationship. It's always hard.. your first is just nerve-wrecking! If it's still bothering you after a week or two, go ahead and bring it up in a non-intimidating way.

**Karen** · 03-06-2009, 04:56 PM

Relax, sweetie! Imagine living in a time when there was no such thing as IM-ing or email!

Constant contact isn't necessary, and I don't think it matters who initiates a contact, as long as you both enjoy the conversation when it happens! Take it slow, and you'll be less stressed.

**lvpets2002** · 03-06-2009, 05:50 PM

Yes Dear the advise of slow & easy with the relationship will for sure work out the best.. Now I can remember when there was No Microwaves, Cell Phone & Ect.. We had at one time growing up what they called Party Lines.. Meaning you had to share a phone ## & line with about 6 to 12 other familys.. Does anyone remember that??

**Catty1** · 03-06-2009, 07:28 PM

Get him a book written by a 9 - year - old.

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/28038281/

**Daisy and Delilah** · 03-07-2009, 02:28 PM

Originally Posted by Karen

Relax, sweetie! Imagine living in a time when there was no such thing as IM-ing or email!

Constant contact isn't necessary, and I don't think it matters who initiates a contact, as long as you both enjoy the conversation when it happens! Take it slow, and you'll be less stressed.

Suddenly I feel reallllllllyyyy old.

Congrats on the new BF, Alyssa. Knowing you, he's already crazy about you. Enjoy!

**Alysser** · 03-07-2009, 11:59 PM

Originally Posted by caseysmom

Whats this! I never told you that you could have a boyfriend, they are distracting and nothing but trouble!

I'm sorry mom

Thanks guys, you're right. Texting and calling isn't the most important thing in a relationship. I really wanna make this work and I really like him and I don't want to give up on him for this one little flaw. I'm *probably* hanging out with him this Wednesday. I'm not worried about it being "awkward" at all.
People always told me that the first date is awkward and alot of my friends bring a friend on their first date.

I never understood why anyone would go out with a guy they felt awkward around.

**My_Babyz16** · 03-08-2009, 12:58 AM

Just asking! What does this question have to do with pets? Go to YahooAnswers.com and ask that.

**caseysmom** · 03-08-2009, 01:01 AM

Originally Posted by My_Babyz16

Just asking! What does this question have to do with pets? Go to YahooAnswers.com and ask that.

This is in the general section so it is general talk and discussion and sharing of our lives. We are one big happy family...and Alysse is my surrogate daughter and a friend to many on this board. We don't just talk pets.

**Alysser** · 03-08-2009, 09:54 AM

Originally Posted by caseysmom

This is in the general section so it is general talk and discussion and sharing of our lives. We are one big happy family...and Alysse is my surrogate daughter and a friend to many on this board. We don't just talk pets.

Thanks again, Mom

Anyway, if you haven't noticed all the threads in this part of the forum are not pet-related. This is the "general" forum for anything. Trust me, I've been on Pettalk since 2006 I know by now

Honestly I do really appreciate the advice I got from posting this. I guess I was sweating the small stuff too much in a first relationship.