The frustrations of needy, clingy men!!

[jennielynn1970]

Ugh... ok, so I can't even be "just" friendly. I tried. The overly needy and clingy just gets worse. Should have just removed myself from the get go. He's a nice guy, he just needs to get more self assured.

[Karen]

Here is a direct link to the study to which Catty1 is referring
http://pn.psychiatryonline.org/cgi/content/full/37/3/22

[kitten645]

I am a firm believer in first impressions. If he creeped you out in this early stage, it will only get worse. No matter WHAT he says. It reminds me of that 'Oh honey I love you so much. Please change!" joke. That's who he is. Get away from him.
Claudia

[sumbirdy]

He seems like he has a big self-esteem problem, and because of that he's probably controlling. Does he want to know where you are all the time? If not, I can see that one coming next. I'd steer WAY clear of him. I met a guy online once that sounds like this. He all but proposed to me after a week, and we had never actually met, there wasn't even a date set to do that! It scared the heck out of me. I say run for the hills! Don't ever look back, this guy sounds creepy.

[jennielynn1970]

Not just steering clear, but gone!!

I tried to be nice. That's just me. Nice just didn't work. It just made it worse. He was "in love" with me!! Ummm... you don't know me!!! Seriously, wft?! That and he "didn't like" my guy friends. Did you know them?? Did you ever meet them?? NO... so back off buddy. SCARY DUDE!!!!

So much for trying to be nice and be friendly. It's not worth it in this case. He is now blocked and removed from accounts as friends, etc...

[Medusa]

Not just steering clear, but gone!! He is now blocked and removed from accounts as friends, etc...

Good! You're too good for all that nonsense, girlfriend.

[Catlady711]

Not just steering clear, but gone!!

I tried to be nice. That's just me. Nice just didn't work. It just made it worse. He was "in love" with me!! Ummm... you don't know me!!! Seriously, wft?! That and he "didn't like" my guy friends. Did you know them?? Did you ever meet them?? NO... so back off buddy. SCARY DUDE!!!!

So much for trying to be nice and be friendly. It's not worth it in this case. He is now blocked and removed from accounts as friends, etc...

You gave him your phone number right? Does he also have your address and know where you work/shop? It definately sounds like stalking behaviour starting. That is very scary. If anything out of the ordinary starts going on, please do not hesitate for a minute to contact the police. If you have any copies of emails, phone messages, or things like that keep them for evidence. Hopefully you'll never need them and this guy will just go away without any more problems.

http://www.wiredsafety.org/cyberstal...kingstudy.html


http://www.bullyonline.org/related/stalking.htm
Warning signs
These are the signs to be alert to:

expects you to spend all of your time with him/her or inform him/her of your whereabouts

refuses to accept "no" for an answer

isolates you from your friends and/or family

puts you down in front of your family or friends

sends frequent unsolicited or unwelcome gifts

makes offers of unsolicited help

excessive niceness in the early stages

use of guilt to manipulate your feelings or to force you into courses of action you feel unhappy with

extreme jealousy

frequent loss of temper

abuse of alcohol and/or drugs

following you wherever you go

threats

physical or verbal abuse

damage or destruction to your property

talks about violence or is fascinated with themes of violence

makes your family or friends feel scared or uneasy

[jennielynn1970]

Thank you, Catlady711. I don't think he'll get to that point. He hasn't called me, and I don't think he'll try to follow me as he's still disabled from a fall that he had a few years ago (he uses a walker at times), although I'm sure if he wanted to he could find ways to find me. I just don't see it happening. If I do, he'll be reported to the police ASAP.