Marigold,
You do not know of which you speak. I have said it before, and thought it many, many times concerning your posts. It bears repeating here. Your posts are so full of anger and bitterness, and so lacking of the characteristics like sympathy and empathy. I wonder what went so horribly wrong in your 'pick yourself up by your bootstraps' upbringing that it left you so inhumane towards others. It is nearly as if you are afraid to show compassion towards others lest it make you less of a person, or somehow take away from the reality of your parents and grandparents. It is just so sad to read your posts.