[Dear You. . .]

[Catty1]

I say it's your ego because you would rather be needed than wanted.

You want to be good and important enough that you will make him love you more.

That is ego.

And it's also repeating the same fight you have with your dad.

You're not gonna win with this one, hon.

If Dan was wonderful and really loved you and you "won" - the challenge would be gone and the joy would fade out pretty quickly.

Until you find another "challenge" to get the adrenaline going again.

It's called the "thrill of the kill". You get hooked on the trying to win. It's very addictive - and many people, especially women, get hooked.

Have a look and see if trying to get your dad's attention doesn't kinda feel the same way....

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

I don't try and get my dads attention. I've given up on that. Its over, its done, I lost. He's got his wife, she's completely turned him around, and is trying to brainwash the rest of the family.

As far as dan, its not a game. I know you won't believe me, regardless of what I say. Dan is the first person I've cared about this deeply in a long time. I'm not going to deny that part of it is about being needed, but I really do love him. If he "caved" and decided he loved me, I would be so happy. I'm trying to get over dan, but its easier said than done.

I respect your opinion, but I need to do what I feel is right.