Let me just throw one more comment in for the vultures:

Regarding the woman that had invitro after her 3 children died - some here feel she was a "sicko" and guilty of producing "replacements".........what if she had tried and happened to get pregnant "naturally"?? Then what? Does that somehow make it "acceptable"? IMO - there is absolutely no difference what-so-ever!

You "replace" a car - you "replace" a pair of shoes, since you can get another the same or very similar. You don't get a "replacement" child - you get a totally different and unique individual!