Quote Originally Posted by DJFyrewolf36 View Post
I've had kids and I know there are some people whou would think of children as "replacements".

Its a sad fact that for any obsurd notion there is SOMEONE on this planet that proves it to be true. Its just the way this world works
I am so sorry you have known such people.

Perhaps we need to define "replacement."

I have told my husband if anything happens to me the best way he can honor my memory is to find someone to be with.

Not a replacement for me.

If being with me made his life richer and better, I would want him to have that experience again. Why should he be alone because I am gone? It does me no good.

And I know he has a big enough heart to have loved me and to love again.

If what has been described on here as "replacement children" were such...wouldn't that by extension mean every couple that has more than one child is "replacing?"

People can survive loss and love again...that doesn't mean they are replacing the lost one...just that they enjoyed loving so much they want to continue doing it.

Pomtzu says it so beautifully...
You can make room in your heart and in your life for another and different one, but you can never "replace" the one that is gone!!!