it seems to me in a way 'our' PT kids have (courtesy) 'aunts and 'uncles' globally and locally. we (the courtesy) family members get updates, pictures, cards, so we do have an intrest in and concern for 'our' kids. the mental image of richard, waiting for the bell, out at the flagpole, wearing mirrored sunglasses, black tshirt, jeans and shoes could be a little scary, and smile provoking when the white catfur starts to fly...