My Mom Passed Away

[Randi]

I'm so sorry to hear your mom has passed away, it is one of the people who are the most painful to lose. Your mom is free of pain now, I hope that will be a comfort, and you have done all you can to help her. Keep your mom in your heart and remember all the good things.

Big hugs and purrs from Fister and me.

[Catty1]

Marti:

{{{{hugs}}}}

My mom and I are the only ones left in our immediate family. I can't imagine losing her, but know that she will likely go first.

I just can't imagine it, she has been a great friend, mom - and yes, a nag at times! - and completely irreplacable.

Heal on your own schedule. Never mind anyone else.

With my dad, it was like being in a kind of tunnel before and after. It was unreal...and I think the mind wisely does that so the reality hits us more gradually, breaks through and then recedes...

HUGS to you. Your Mom looks like a great lady who loved to laugh! I wish you peace and happy memories.

I like Lut's idea - put up pictures and talk to them.

I think Mom will hear you.

[Taz_Zoee]

Marti, I still just don't have the right words to help your pain right now. I wish I did. But I think what others have said here are good things to remember. Lut's idea is great. I always talk to a friend of mine's picture when it pops up on my screen saver. He passed in 2007.
Your mother was a beautiful lady, just like you. I am always here for you if you ever need to talk or cry. I just wish I was there for you to give you a huge hug and cry with you.
Come back to this thread as often as you'd like just to get your thoughts and feelings out.

Lots of to you and your family.

[Daisy and Delilah]

Your Mom was a beautiful, elegant, lady. I'm so sorry. Please accept my heartfelt condolences. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

[Cataholic]

Marti,
What a loving relationship you shared with your mother. I am sure the she was as equally blessed as you, in loving you. I am so sorry for your pain, and hope you find comfort, in time, remembering all the wonderful memories you shared together.

Cataholic

[krazyaboutkatz]

I'm so sorry to hear this. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care. (((HUGS)))

[Karen]

Dear one,

Please accept a lot of hugs from me. When my mom was dying (ALS) I would often sit in the car after visiting her and sing the old spiritual "Sometimes I Feel Like a Motherless Child" and it is so mournful and sad it somehow made me feel a little better.

There is no cure for this
There is no fix
The cost of loving and being loved
Is, at this point, pain
But the pain will not win
It will not prevail
In moments when you least expect it
A memory of some silly moment
Or happy time
Will sneak into your mind
A glance in the mirror will reveal
A trace of her in your own face
But more than anything, death does not win
Pain does not win
Because Love - Love lives on
And will carry you through.


We love you!

[Alysser]

I'm so sorry, may she rest in peace. ((Hugs)) to you.

[K9karen]

Dearest Marti, I know exactly how you feel. Your post brought tears to my eyes. Not only did my dear, beloved, best friend, mom, pass 3 years ago, this past June (time flies), but her youngest sister, my favorite aunt, passed away Feb 9.

I feel your pain, as, I too, home cared my mother when she wasn't in the hospital or in rehab. Our roles were totally reversed. I never thought I'd change my mom's diaper. She was mentally alert, which, to me, made it easier, as we could still talk and laugh.
Unlike a lot of my friends, I was very close to my mom. I was invited to live with my parents to save money, and I never regretted it, as I had total freedom.

It gets better little by little. One day at a time. Sometimes, you'll lose it, other days, your fog will lift and you'll feel sane. I survive by remembering all the gazillion great memories. I still wear some of her clothes, remembering when and where she wore it. I know my mom is proud of me..she taught me well. And I'm sure your mom feels the same about you. (I miss my dad too, he was super, but mom and I had girlie times). Sometimes I think I feel her kiss my cheek and her arms wrapped lovingly around me.

May you find peace knowing your beautiful mother is healthy and happy, with her loved ones, human and furry.

[ramanth]

I'm very sorry for your loss.