What I did for my family for Christmas this year

**shepgirl** · 12-26-2008, 07:59 PM

Your posts portray you much differently than waht you described. What a surprise it was to read how you felt.
Congratulations on your actions, I think maybe everyone should express themselves to their families, even in letters like you did. Be assured that everyone will surely be touched by the honesty you showed and all are probably so happy you went to that family dinner.

**carole** · 12-26-2008, 10:32 PM

You go girl, be proud of yourself, I think you are going to feel so much better in yourself, for having written what you did,and don't worry if there is no reaction from the family,you have gotten it off your chest and that is all that really matters, so chin up and soldier on as you always have done,I hope you are feeling better today, HUGS.

**Emeraldgreen** · 12-26-2008, 10:54 PM

What a brave and wonderful thing to do. I hope your family is receptive to your honesty and will talk with you about it. But even if they don't, you've done it and broken free from a not so healthy pattern of not communicating. Good for you! Wishing you a great new year in 2009 full of love and validation and happiness.

**Moesha** · 12-26-2008, 11:24 PM

I like the fact that they can keep those cards and reread them forever, even maybe after you've forgotten about writing them. Plus, it made you feel better. That's an important point! Good for you.

**catmandu** · 12-27-2008, 10:40 AM

JEN , I SOMETIMES HAVE THOSE FEELINGS TOO, AND I END UP NOT GOING ANYWHERE

AT TIMES AS I THINK, OH THE BUS IS GOING TO BE CROWDED , OR THE FOODS GOING TO BE LOUSY, AND THEN I FEEL GUILTY AS I DIDNT GET TAKE OUT FOR THE CATS.

I REALLY ONLY HAVE A BROTHER AND SISTER IN LAW NOW, AND I FELT GUILTY AS I ASKED THAT WE GO TO THE LESS EXPENSIVE LUNCH BUFFET, RATHER TAHN THE DINNER AND I FELT BAD THAT THE CATS DIDNT GET A BETTER KITTY BAG.

ITS BAD TO BE SO INDECISIVE

, OF ALWAYS SECONDING GUESSING YOURSELF, I AHVE BEEN TOLD THAT THE REASON I HAVE SO MANY CATS

IS THAT THEY CANT TELL ME WHAT A LOSER I AM.
THATS NOT RIGHT, BUT I AM GLAD SOMETIMES I DONT KNOW WHAT THEY ARE THINKING.

JEN, YOU ARE A WONDERFUL PERSON, I WISH I COULD ASY SOMETHING THAT WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER. YOU ARE LIKE THE CHARACTERS IN THE WIZARD OF OZ WHO GO LOOKIG FOR POSITIVE QUALITIES, WHEN THEY HAVE THEM ALL ALONG.

WE ARE PARYING JEN, THAT YOU CAN FIND PEACE OF MIND.