I'm feeling so guilty right now...

**carole** · 12-14-2008, 11:52 AM

That heart of Gold is shining again Donna,and long may it shine, you are a very loving, caring giving person,be proud of that, and yes sometimes you end up on getting a bad deal, but for every bad deal i am sure there are countless good ones,when the time of reckoning comes my dear friend, those pearly gates will be welcoming you.

I am so sorry about your daughter's kitty, but please try not to feel bad,you can't know everything,you have done your best.

I hope your friend comes through with the money soon, nothing worse than being strapped for cash, and someone owing you,good luck and chin up, all will be well soon i am sure, i hope anyhow.

**Medusa** · 12-14-2008, 12:04 PM

I got to thinking about this, Donna, and I can tell you that several people have asked me to make purchases for them w/my wholesale discount and that they would repay me. I've refused them every time because that isn't what my wholesale license is for and your employee discount is for you, not anyone else. If you buy a gift w/your discount, that's one thing but if you feel obligated or guilted into it for whatever reason, then that's something else entirely. Besides, your friend could use the 20% BB&B discount coupon that we all get in the mail and pay for it herself. She has more options than you do, her husband for one; whether or not they live together is irrelevant. You're living alone (except for your fur clan) and working, so you have to take care of yourself.

Y'know how they tell us on an airline flight to put on our oxygen mask before we attempt to help the person next to us? Same rule applies here. Take care of yourself first. You won't have any money left for yourself if you keep helping others first. Take care of Donna first and if you can help others w/out feeling a pinch, by all means, do it. Hopefully, she'll repay you quickly and then you can put this all behind you and consider it a lesson learned. But don't continue to beat yourself up over it. Your heart was in the right place, as usual.

P.S. Sorry that I missed your call. I had the phone ringer turned off until this morning but I'll be home all day today if you want to call back after work. I wanted to call you but I don't want to disturb you at work.

**moosmom** · 12-14-2008, 05:51 PM

Mary,

You're so right and it's a lesson that has finally sunk in. Wanna know something? After I did all that for her (grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry, etc.) she went out on her own after I left because she needed a few other things!!! I hate it when my good intentions are abused. Her husband could've stayed home with her rather than me driving 45 minutes one way.

*sigh* I give up.

**Medusa** · 12-14-2008, 06:35 PM

Originally Posted by moosmom

Mary,

You're so right and it's a lesson that has finally sunk in. Wanna know something? After I did all that for her (grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry, etc.) she went out on her own after I left because she needed a few other things!!! I hate it when my good intentions are abused. Her husband could've stayed home with her rather than me driving 45 minutes one way.

*sigh* I give up.

Ah well, let it go. Except for the money she owes you, all that you did for her can be considered your Christmas to her.