Would anyone be willing to pick a name and only buy for that person? My family would never go for that but Richard's family agreed to it a couple of years ago. We all still buy for his parents and grandmother but among the siblings and their children we each pick a name out of a bowl (we do it on Thanksgiving Day). I love when Richard and I get a married couple because I can buy a gift card to a restaurant. I like things simple - especially for people I only see a couple of times a year.

Are you crafty or a good baker? Another option could be homeade gifts. My sister has done this a few times when they had lean years. She'd give baked goods and things like that. Her peanut butter fudge is worth it's weight in gold!

I like Cataholic's suggestion of just spreading the word and not sending out anything formal. Hopefully your family will understand and won't need details.

I've come to the realization that Richard and I can't afford to compete with my brothers in gift giving. I just give them what I can afford to do and they always seem happy. They give me unbelievable gifts but I believe it's their way of thanking me or trying to repay me for taking care of our Dad. For my birthday last month one brother gave me a Wii system and games. No way can I give him anything of that level for his birthday next week. Just remember it's suppose to be the thought that counts and no one should want you to go into debt over gifts. Of course I know that isn't always the case.