How do you politely tell someone your not interested...

[caseysmom]

I'm sorry I had to giggle about this. To be young and attractive and have such problems again!!!

Just be yourself, you sound like you are nice, just be honest.

[Karen]

Take him aside and gently say "I am sorry if there has been a misunderstanding. I like you, but just as a friend. I am sorry if you thought there was more to it, but I just don't feel that way about you. I felt I should say something, I hope this doesn't hurt you. You are a (fill in positive adjectives of choice here) nice person, and I'd like to still be friends with you if we can, okay?"

See how that goes. It doesn't have to be at all confrontational. And if he does not still want to be friends, it will be sad, but try to be okay with that.

[sumbirdy]

Thanks for everyone's post. I know this seems trivial, and this doesn't happen to me ever (this is the first time!) I don't date much at all. But I hate to hurt anyone's feelings, although I know feelings are going to get hurt sometimes no matter what. I've always been like this ever since I can remember. I remember not telling my parents I didn't believe in Santa for a couple of years because I thought it would hurt their feelings. lol.

[caseysmom]

Thanks for everyone's post. I know this seems trivial, and this doesn't happen to me ever (this is the first time!) I don't date much at all. But I hate to hurt anyone's feelings, although I know feelings are going to get hurt sometimes no matter what. I've always been like this ever since I can remember. I remember not telling my parents I didn't believe in Santa for a couple of years because I thought it would hurt their feelings. lol.

Oh I didn't mean it was trivial, I am sorry. Its someone's feelings, thats never trivial.

[sumbirdy]

Oh I didn't mean it was trivial, I am sorry. Its someone's feelings, thats never trivial.

That's okay!

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

In my opinion Karen is saying it perfectly! I would follow her advize . Good luck

[Cataholic]

I would pull him aside, and in person only, and say, "wow, I am totally flattered you are interested in me! I totally value your friendship, and hope you won't be upset, but, I don't feel that same way". It is bound to hurt a little, and it might be uncomfortable, but, remain true to your friendship and it will pass.