Sad Update

[NicoleLJ]

My therapist helped me come to the conclusion a while ago that I needed to down size the amount of pets I had in the house if I was ever to move. Which I have to do at the end of January. SO sadly I am selling the cats, my dream cats. It is ripping my heart out that I am being made to make this decision. And I went back and forth on whtether to sell Luca or Ajax. I have finaly settled on selling Luca. He will adjust faster to a new home. Plus Ajax is going through this teenage phase of barking at everything that moves, twitches, thinks of moving and so on.

So I am enrolling him in an obience course after the holidays. It is only 90 dollars but I think it will be worth it and hopefully my Avon will end up paying for it.

SO that will leave Sheena and Ajax. I am not doing this for the money, or because I want to. I am doing it because I have to. I have to make sure I can get a decent place to rent for me and the kids and the dogs. My church said they are going to help me.

Anyyway I hope no one hates me for my decision. And I am sorry if You do. Trust me I hate me for it.

[blue]

Unfortunently you are doing what you have to, and you are also looking out for the best interests for your pets. If anybody hates you for making this decision isnt in your position.

[cyber-sibes]

I'm so sorry, Nichole. I know this is breaking your heart. You must do what you have to for you & your kids' best interests, and I think it takes a lot of courage to give up so much in order to rebuild a better life. No one can make these decisions except you, and everyone should honor your decisions. Hang in there, it takes a while, but life will be better.

[Taz_Zoee]

Oh Nicole, this has to be a heart breaking decision for you. But it is what must be done. And I'm sure you will find excellent homes for the babies.

You take good care of yourself, your children and Sheena and Ajax.

[RICHARD]

Anyyway I hope no one hates me for my decision. And I am sorry if You do. Trust me I hate me for it.

LIke, why would we hate you for trying to speak on an animal's behalf?
You can only do as much as you can and after that you may be hurting the animals you are trying to help.

Sometimes you have to let go and put your faith in the work you have done and what the future holds after that.

Stop and think of what would have happened had you not done your part.

Now,
Put your trust in the future and try to still make a difference.

[jennielynn1970]

Instead of selling the cats (and Luka, unless you can sell him to a reputable breeder), why not adopt them out to a family who will take care of them? Just make sure that the people fill out an application, do a vet check, a home visit.

Hope that all goes well for you and your pets. I don't think anyone would be angry at you, you have to do what is best for you and for the welfare of your pets. No one would envy your position, I am sure.

[Reachoutrescue]

We do not hate you....you are doing what you have to do for your pets, your children, and yourself. I hope all goes well and they find great homes. Good luck and chin up.

[Catty1]

Maybe ask for an adoption fee - you know, the usual cautions about 'free to a good home'. I know you may have spent money on them, maybe getting them or just everything you have put into them (and that is a LOT), but maybe look at what you are asking for them, and if that will work so close to Christmas.

An adoption fee and a wonderful home - you won't even make back what you put into them, but they will get good homes.

{{{{hugs}}}}

[Medusa]

This definitely falls into the "people first" category. I can't imagine that anyone would hate you for doing what's best for your family, especially when you're having to make a whole new start. You're not tossing your furkids out on the street to fend for themselves. You're considering their best interests and no one can ask for more when you're attempting to do the right thing.

[moosmom]

Nicole,

I know how difficult it is for you to have to play eenie-meenie-minie-moe with the furbabies. I've had to do it and it's not easy. But you have to think about what is best for you and for your pets. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers, honey. If you need help trying to place anyone, let me know. I've got alot of contacts.

(((((((HUGS))))))))

Donna and crew

[Karen]

Folks, I think that it is just a matter of wording - "selling" or "adopting out with a fee" - it's the same thing, right? I'm sure that is what she means.

And Nicole, no one would fault you for this. It is a hard decision, but a necessary one. And I am sure they will go on to bless their new homes. Maybe send them on with a note about Pet Talk, and their new homes can keep us in touch with their growth.

[Catlady711]

Can't quite figure out how one sad post gets into a minor dissagreement over semantics when her first post clearly (at least to me) said it all.....

My therapist helped me come to the conclusion

[Catty1]

Thank you, Catlady.

[NicoleLJ]

THank you catlady. Man and you all said you would be a support to me. I have been having a hard enough time with this decision without reading and dealing with all this too. And on top of dealing with the police and my husbands breaches of contact. Even while in jail. THank goodness the phone is now set up that he cann't call me and he might have his phone priviliges taken away.

Look I have a ton on my plate ALONG with my disabilty. PLus the fact that a few days ago I tore my rotator cuff in my shoulder all the way down to my bicept and my doctor says I have artritis in both my elbows too. More stuff on more stuff on more stuff. I am trying to find joy in the little things. Trying. But post like these sure make it hard.

THe therapist helped me go over a budget plan and helped me see over 3 - 4 weeks that I am over loaded. I can't handle the bills I have now without my husbands income. I didn't expect this. He gambled away all our savings, pawned off many of our valuables, got loans and credit cards I had no idea about. I have already talked to a lawyer and am doing what I can.

DO you really honestly think that I want to get rid of my babies? If you do then you really are not my friends and you really don't know or care about me or what I am going through. Candance knows because she is on with me every day for what, almost two years? SHe has been my saving grace. My true friend. She has truely understood the pain I am going through on a daily basis.

I am sorry that you think I am an orger for having to rehome the kittens and Luca but through therapy I know it needs to be done so I can get a good, safe home for my kids and me and provide them a life. Sorry for upsetting you all.

[Karen]

No one has said you were an ogre, they were just saying they would not give up their animals, but everyone has acknowledged that they are not in your shoes. Don't take their disagreements as criticism, they are just honest disagreements. Only you know what is right for you!