Starting Over

[carole]

I am so glad you found the courage to speak out here, you are among friends, never doubt that, and remember it is NOT YOUR FAULT in anyway, you did not ask for it.

It is really scarey, the next stage of your life is filled with what if's,but think of the harmony ahead, times will be tough no doubt, and it will be filled with challenges ahead, but i hope with lots of love from friends and family, and your internet buddy's you will be able to get through it all.

you have made a really good choice in your life, not to continue in an abusive relationship, for yourself and your children, one day they will thank you for it, it might not be for a while, but they will understand and appreciate what you have done for them.

No-one is going to tell you it is going to be easy,but if you weigh up the pros and cons, you will see you are now on the winning side.

I am so sorry you have had to endure this, and felt it had to be your secret, there is no shame on your part, only his,you are a brave young woman and i appauld you for coming here and opening up to us all.

Take care and feel free to pm me anytime, always here to lend a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen. HUGS.

[emily_the_spoiled]

Unfortunately there are too many people in your situation that are never as brave as you and continue to stay in the relationship. You made the right decision for you, the kids, and the pets.

As Carole said, there will be hard times, but there will also be wonderful times and you will have happiness again in the future. Do not ever think that you can not share with people, you might be surprised to find that you can help others in the same situation just by showing what is possible.

[Cataholic]

Everyone has really said it all, but, I wanted to add my support and prayers to you, your children and your pets! It must be scary, but, please remember, it will also be safer.

[KYS]

Sending you lots of kudos.
It took a lot of courage to make the best decision for you and your children.
(((Hugs)))

[K9karen]

Count me in for support! I also admire you so much for baring your soul to us! I know it wasn't easy.

My first thought was the the wonderful job you've done with your dogs. That takes a lot of confidence and strength (if that's the right word) Having said this, I have no doubt that you will survive (*sings "I will survive" by Gloria Gaynor*) and that your children will be the better for it too.

I hope you will continue to count on us, your family, for support. You may not have met any of us, but once you're on PT, we don't let you get away easily.

Sending you {HUGS} and

[NicoleLJ]

Thank you all so much for your kind thoughts and your words of strength. Right now I am working hard on trying to get a handle on selling AVON. Donèt know if it will work. But it is something I can do from home and still get my AISH too. I know I canèt pay all my bills and take care of my kids on just my Aish. So I have to do something else besides. And Aish allows for each person to earn an extra 1500 before they start deducting from their benifits.

My main concern right now is my therapy and then making sure I have enough income to support me and the kids. Everything else will have to fall by the way side for now.

[jennielynn1970]

Do they have child support up there? I mean, if your husband is working, and you have custody of the kids, then you should be getting support $$ from him. Look into every avenue that you can. If not from him, then maybe you can get more money from the govt. since you've lost income to the household and have the kids and yourself to take care of, and you're disabled. The worst they can say is "No." as my mother always told me, but you can always hope to get a "Yes! We can help" out of someone!

Good luck!