Starting Over

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

Oh gosh Nicole...., I admire you for being so brave!! There is NOTHING for you to be ashamed for! The one person who should is your husband only!!
Hey, if you need someone to talk too, you may always contact me on MSN!! I will send you my msn-name if you like!!

hugs for you & the kids!!

[carole]

I am so glad you found the courage to speak out here, you are among friends, never doubt that, and remember it is NOT YOUR FAULT in anyway, you did not ask for it.

It is really scarey, the next stage of your life is filled with what if's,but think of the harmony ahead, times will be tough no doubt, and it will be filled with challenges ahead, but i hope with lots of love from friends and family, and your internet buddy's you will be able to get through it all.

you have made a really good choice in your life, not to continue in an abusive relationship, for yourself and your children, one day they will thank you for it, it might not be for a while, but they will understand and appreciate what you have done for them.

No-one is going to tell you it is going to be easy,but if you weigh up the pros and cons, you will see you are now on the winning side.

I am so sorry you have had to endure this, and felt it had to be your secret, there is no shame on your part, only his,you are a brave young woman and i appauld you for coming here and opening up to us all.

Take care and feel free to pm me anytime, always here to lend a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen. HUGS.

[emily_the_spoiled]

Unfortunately there are too many people in your situation that are never as brave as you and continue to stay in the relationship. You made the right decision for you, the kids, and the pets.

As Carole said, there will be hard times, but there will also be wonderful times and you will have happiness again in the future. Do not ever think that you can not share with people, you might be surprised to find that you can help others in the same situation just by showing what is possible.

[Cataholic]

Everyone has really said it all, but, I wanted to add my support and prayers to you, your children and your pets! It must be scary, but, please remember, it will also be safer.

[KYS]

Sending you lots of kudos.
It took a lot of courage to make the best decision for you and your children.
(((Hugs)))

[K9karen]

Count me in for support! I also admire you so much for baring your soul to us! I know it wasn't easy.

My first thought was the the wonderful job you've done with your dogs. That takes a lot of confidence and strength (if that's the right word) Having said this, I have no doubt that you will survive (*sings "I will survive" by Gloria Gaynor*) and that your children will be the better for it too.

I hope you will continue to count on us, your family, for support. You may not have met any of us, but once you're on PT, we don't let you get away easily.

Sending you {HUGS} and

[NicoleLJ]

Thank you all so much for your kind thoughts and your words of strength. Right now I am working hard on trying to get a handle on selling AVON. Donèt know if it will work. But it is something I can do from home and still get my AISH too. I know I canèt pay all my bills and take care of my kids on just my Aish. So I have to do something else besides. And Aish allows for each person to earn an extra 1500 before they start deducting from their benifits.

My main concern right now is my therapy and then making sure I have enough income to support me and the kids. Everything else will have to fall by the way side for now.

[jennielynn1970]

Do they have child support up there? I mean, if your husband is working, and you have custody of the kids, then you should be getting support $$ from him. Look into every avenue that you can. If not from him, then maybe you can get more money from the govt. since you've lost income to the household and have the kids and yourself to take care of, and you're disabled. The worst they can say is "No." as my mother always told me, but you can always hope to get a "Yes! We can help" out of someone!

Good luck!

[Zippy]

I am so sorry to hear this.I can't imgiane anyone would igorne you.You are a valued member of PT.You are a very brave person to stand up because some people never do.I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

[joycenalex]

nicole, if we order avon on line, can we name you as our rep?

[NicoleLJ]

I have no idea but I am going to find out and get back to you. Give me a couple of hours to talk to my reps and I will let you know. What an awsome idea. Thanks. I hope it works.

[Catty1]

Hey Nicole - if it works out with your reps, then post a notice in Marketplace, and then post a link to it in here.

Hope it works out great for you!

[carole]

Good luck with your Avon sales, i too was once an Avon rep, many years back now when i was raising my son as a single parent,one bit of advice, i hope you have more self control than me, i usually ended up spending quite a bit of my earnings back on Avon,even though as a rep we got good bargains, i just could not resist them lol.

I still buy Avon products today, and find most of them great,they have a good reputation for being a good product at a good price, so all the best, I am sure you will be wonderful.

[NicoleLJ]

Sorry Joy but I have to keep it within the province I am in. Good thought though. So for anyone in Alberta I can be their rep but not for anyone else.
Nicole

[joycenalex]

BUMMER!!! i'm underwhelmed by the local rep at work...so can you share this info with your Alberta email friends?