Nasty co-worker

**Medusa** · 09-18-2008, 11:12 AM

Rise above it. I'm not being trite when I say that either. Visualize yourself looking down on the incident and see it for what it is. In the grand scheme of things, it's insignificant. To be sure, it can be difficult to work w/an unpleasant co-worker, so I'm not trivializing your feelings in the matter but telling you that you have a choice here to either let it affect you (and probably give her satisfaction) or just to get on w/your day and let her see that she isn't having the effect on you that she probably thinks she is.

**lvpets2002** · 09-18-2008, 11:25 AM

Originally Posted by Medusa

Rise above it. I'm not being trite when I say that either. Visualize yourself looking down on the incident and see it for what it is. In the grand scheme of things, it's insignificant. To be sure, it can be difficult to work w/an unpleasant co-worker, so I'm not trivializing your feelings in the matter but telling you that you have a choice here to either let it affect you (and probably give her satisfaction) or just to get on w/your day and let her see that she isn't having the effect on you that she probably thinks she is.

Well said Mary && I totally agree.. Just Brush that Dirt Off Your Shoulder.. Dont carry the extra weight ok..

**Bonny** · 09-18-2008, 01:16 PM

I bet she will confront you & ask you what she did wrong? If so I would remain civil. You have to work with this person & this type of situation could sink you both down & make life testy for everyone where you work. I have run into this type of thing where I work. But you know what goes around comes around. It is a matter of time before someone higher up where you work will catch on or maybe they already have & will confront her. Your going to have to be patient & chew on nails, don't bring yourself down to her sick level.

**pomtzu** · 09-18-2008, 01:54 PM

Give her enough rope and she'll probably hang herself! Before I retired I had a co-worker who was the biggest 2-faced individual I ever met, but it took me a while to find out. She was always buddy-buddy, sociable, etc and we were on good terms for quite a few years. I'd pick her up if she needed a ride, help her out if she got behind on her work, etc. Then the worm turned - sweet to my face and then stabbing me when I turned my back. My supervisor was aware of it, but couldn't prove anything, and gossip was no grounds to fire someone. In our department we had a computer that anyone could use, as well as our own at our desk. One day when I had to use the department computer, I found e-mail that this co-worker had sent (and was stupid enough not to delete it), ordering illegal drugs from overseas and having them shipped to the company mailroom. I printed it, and then searched back through e-mails and found she had been doing this for a long time. I guess she thought no one would find it if it wasn't on her computer. I didn't want to rat on her, but my supervisor had suspected for a long time that she was coming to work high, and instructed me that she needed to know anything adverse. I held on to those printed emails for quite a while and didn't turn them in until I had to - the day my co-worker tried to pin a costly mistake that she had made on me. Obviously - she was terminated shortly after.

**Marigold2** · 09-19-2008, 09:05 AM

Thank you everyone for the excellent and kind advise. I am truly greatful for your support.
I have decided to not be mean in any way, I am not one to hold a grudge, however I will keep my distance just to protect myself.
The Dr is aware of what happened and now knows what kind of person Anne is. Karen and the Dr are the people in charge I will leave it up to them what they will do.
Meanwhile my goal is to do a good job, be pleasant and not rock the boat. I am going to be the one employee who does what they are told, comes to work smiling, and makes the Dr's day easier.