Nasty co-worker

[RICHARD]

First thing?

Go about your day with as little or no drama in your "way".

kinda keep a little note book of what is going on and when you have to deal with her, do it the most professional way possible.

If you go to management explain the problem. DON'T make it sound like you are NOT going to do things with/for/against her.

Tell them that you just have some doubts as to the way you can work with her and if they may have some advice.

When you go in and start tearing things up and saying, "I will not/won't..." you can easily get labeled as a person who 'doesn't cooperate'. Take a deep breath be as monotone/neutral as you can be and have patience. If she is the AH that she seems to be, she will sink herself.

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One way to get around the BS abot signups is suggest a board where stuff like that can be posted or take the initiative to ask about up coming meetings/training sessions.

[Ginger's Mom]

Richard has given you some excellent advice. Don't make her problems/attitude your problem; don't make it a big factor in the way you approach your day and work. You may find that you feel more stress the more you think about it. Just keep a notebook of the problems, keep up or enhance your work related conversations with the other people in the office, and do the best work that you can in this situation. People will see what is going on.

[Cataholic]

That STINKS! Nothing like stress at work- where many of us spend the majority of our waking hours.

If at all possible, I would try to move past this and get back to a place where you can be civil to one another. I have always found keeping up the tension takes way more work/energy/emotion than just moving past it. Doesn't mean that you like her now, just that you can be civil.

[moosmom]

I'd keep to myself. I wouldn't give her the time of day. She sounds like she's out to better herself and doesn't want you in the way. That's sad.

[Taz_Zoee]

I have a person I work with that I refuse to speak to. In fact, if I need to speak to her (and that's not often, thank goodness) sometimes I'll find a way to have someone else do it instead. Now, if she comes up to me (like she did yesterday) and talks to me, I'm not going to be rude or ignore her or anything. But I just keep it simple and professional. No small talk.

I'm not sure of the size of your office or how closely you work with her, but my office is a good size and she is in a different department and on the other side of the suite.

Good luck!

[Medusa]

Rise above it. I'm not being trite when I say that either. Visualize yourself looking down on the incident and see it for what it is. In the grand scheme of things, it's insignificant. To be sure, it can be difficult to work w/an unpleasant co-worker, so I'm not trivializing your feelings in the matter but telling you that you have a choice here to either let it affect you (and probably give her satisfaction) or just to get on w/your day and let her see that she isn't having the effect on you that she probably thinks she is.

[lvpets2002]

Rise above it. I'm not being trite when I say that either. Visualize yourself looking down on the incident and see it for what it is. In the grand scheme of things, it's insignificant. To be sure, it can be difficult to work w/an unpleasant co-worker, so I'm not trivializing your feelings in the matter but telling you that you have a choice here to either let it affect you (and probably give her satisfaction) or just to get on w/your day and let her see that she isn't having the effect on you that she probably thinks she is.

Well said Mary && I totally agree.. Just Brush that Dirt Off Your Shoulder.. Dont carry the extra weight ok..