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    Puck'ster, and LH, to a tiny degree:

    The safety and security of OUR children is OUR responsibility. I strongly disagree that the safety and security of YOUR child is YOUR responsibility, alone. Children, one day, leave the clutches of their parents..be it preschool, day care, field trips, sporting events, etc. No way can a single parent- no matter how viligant- be the single source eye/ear for their child. If only.

    I want ANY one looking after my child, in the event I am not present. Right now, Jonah is in preschool. I would want the teacher/aide/administrator/ volunteer in the classroom to immediately call 241-kids (our hotline here, locally) if they suspected something afoul.

    I realize that the two of you weren't really not saying otherwise (nice double negative), but, I do want to point out that it is more than "responsible parenting" or "being careful" that needs to be done. I do think children need special protection- without any comment being made on the particular bill up for discussion. I didn't read it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cataholic View Post
    Puck'ster, and LH, to a tiny degree:

    The safety and security of OUR children is OUR responsibility. I strongly disagree that the safety and security of YOUR child is YOUR responsibility, alone. Children, one day, leave the clutches of their parents..be it preschool, day care, field trips, sporting events, etc. No way can a single parent- no matter how viligant- be the single source eye/ear for their child. If only.
    I understand what you are trying to say. Still, I would rather trust myself of my wife to investigate the people our child will be with when we are not there. There are a lot of tools at our disposal to look into coaches /teachers /etc criminal/ whatever history.

    Also, please do not misunderstand me. I am not going to smother our child and be fearful at every step. We are just not going to "trust" the 'system' to be responsible, all on it's own. If/when Hannah wants to get into sports (etc), you better belive I am going to check into the coaches and staff's background, as much as is legal. Also, Hannah is going to be homeschooled until at least age 12. We are blessed to have access to a wonderful, faith based, homeschool group near us. The group is really neat. They have field trips, group sessions and such. The high school age kids even have a PROM. LOL And yes, I plan on digging into the background of the other homeschool parents who teach the certain subjects they are proficient in.

    The Libertarian in me just fully distrusts anything the government does. LOL

    I realize that the two of you weren't really not saying otherwise (nice double negative), but, I do want to point out that it is more than "responsible parenting" or "being careful" that needs to be done. I do think children need special protection- without any comment being made on the particular bill up for discussion. I didn't read it.
    Indeed they do. We just disagree, sorta, on what that special protection should be. To us, it is simple. God commands parents to raise their children up in the way that they should go. Parents, not the community. Community is important, but at the end of the day, the parents are responsible.

    Of course this does not guarantee Hannah will be perfect or even grow to be a confident, self reliant, honorable person. But it sure increases the odds.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Puckstop31 View Post
    Also, please do not misunderstand me. I am not going to smother our child and be fearful at every step. We are just not going to "trust" the 'system' to be responsible, all on it's own. If/when Hannah wants to get into sports (etc), you better belive I am going to check into the coaches and staff's background, as much as is legal. Also, Hannah is going to be homeschooled until at least age 12. We are blessed to have access to a wonderful, faith based, homeschool group near us. The group is really neat. They have field trips, group sessions and such. The high school age kids even have a PROM. LOL And yes, I plan on digging into the background of the other homeschool parents who teach the certain subjects they are proficient in.

    Indeed they do. We just disagree, sorta, on what that special protection should be. To us, it is simple. God commands parents to raise their children up in the way that they should go. Parents, not the community. Community is important, but at the end of the day, the parents are responsible.

    Of course this does not guarantee Hannah will be perfect or even grow to be a confident, self reliant, honorable person. But it sure increases the odds.
    As a public school teacher, I so do not understand the homeschool idea.

    Why limit the child to homebound education? What about the socialization that she or he would receive going to a public or private school?

    I know that here, in PA, a homeschooled child can petition the schoolboard and be a part of the sports teams. Personally, I don't think they should be allowed to. You want to join the school's football, baseball, or whatever team, come to school. Your mom and dad want you to be educated at home, then tough luck.

    I also don't think that the state should foot the bill for your child's education if you decide to school at home. Sorry. You want to school your child at home, foot the bill yourself. Not saying that you and your wife will do that, but most homeschooler rely on the state for funding (computers for the child and such).

    Public and private schools give kids foundations for being well rounded kids. You can't get that from a homebound education. The opportunities for classes, and diversity in curriculum and not to mention diversity of the student population as well, you just don't get that with a home based education.

    Granted we have problems with teachers in public and private schools, but you have that in any job/career you look at. You can have it in homebound education as well. We need to have better screenings for the people who are teaching our kids. The fact that we have so many that are being arrested as drug users, or sexual abusers, is just horrible. There needs to be a better way to track these things, and make sure those types of predators aren't working with children (it would be nice if they didn't exist at all). I just don't see that limiting a child's education to the home as an answer.

    If the public schools are really that bad in your area, I'd look into the private schools, where at least Hannah would have the ability to meet other kids, be involved in school sports and get those socialization skills.

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    Ahhh Jenn... Where do I start? I could pen PAGES and PAGES about this, but I will keep it brief. All I ask is that you please read all of this before you make up your mind.

    1.) First and foremost... Because we CAN, and because we CHOOSE to. (You are pro-choice, no?)

    2.) Because of teachers unions, our public schools are the center of political debate. Teachers unions, more than any other factor, ruin it. The excellent tachers can't get raises, the loser can't be fired... You go on strike, in the middle of the year beacause you won't get a 7% (really, who gets a 7% raise???) raise... Or have to actualyl pay a portion of your health benefits. You say you care about the children, I say BULLCRAP. If you cared about the kids, there would never be a strike during the school year.

    3.) Public schools refuse to discipline.

    4.) Public schools teach things the "PC" way, rather than the correct way.

    5.) Homeschooling allows us to teach Hannah in the way that she can learn best, not to the lowest common denominator in the class.

    6.) We can tell Hannah when she has failed, and then bring her back up from it.

    7.) I trust the local co-op of 400+ students, whose parents have CHOSEN to take on the burden of their child's education more than some bureaucrat who is just looking to advance a career.

    8.) In PA, property taxes are used to fund schools. We never OWN our homes, we rent them. Recently, a 83 year old man in Camp Hill was EVICTED from his 5 GENERATION farm, worht about half a million dollars... For failure to pay 20K in back taxes. They sold the farm at auction... AND KEPT THE EXTRA.

    9.) Trust me... Hannah will be properly socialized with children who are raised with discipline and taught to have respect. "Show me your friends and I will show you your future."

    10.) Don't worry... NOT ONE DIME of public money will be used to educate Hannah. I would not take it if they gave it to me.

    11.) There are PLENTY of socialization options for her, short of school. Church, Gymboree, the co-op group parents, township (non-school) sports, the YMCA....


    Jenn, it's about choice. We are blessed by the fact that Tanya can stay home with Hannah. Lord willing, we will be able to continue that with our future children.

    It all comes back to Proverbs 22:6. "Train a child in the way he should go, so that when he is old, he will not depart from it."

    We believe that public schools fail, miserably, at this. I could go into many more pages about just what that verse means... But I will spare you. I will send you a CD set of 6 sermons my moms pastor gave on it if you like. VERY little religion in it... Just WISDOM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jenn_librarian View Post
    As a public school teacher, I so do not understand the homeschool idea.

    Why limit the child to homebound education? What about the socialization that she or he would receive going to a public or private school?

    I know that here, in PA, a homeschooled child can petition the schoolboard and be a part of the sports teams. Personally, I don't think they should be allowed to. You want to join the school's football, baseball, or whatever team, come to school. Your mom and dad want you to be educated at home, then tough luck.

    I also don't think that the state should foot the bill for your child's education if you decide to school at home. Sorry. You want to school your child at home, foot the bill yourself. Not saying that you and your wife will do that, but most homeschooler rely on the state for funding (computers for the child and such).

    Public and private schools give kids foundations for being well rounded kids. You can't get that from a homebound education. The opportunities for classes, and diversity in curriculum and not to mention diversity of the student population as well, you just don't get that with a home based education.

    Granted we have problems with teachers in public and private schools, but you have that in any job/career you look at. You can have it in homebound education as well. We need to have better screenings for the people who are teaching our kids. The fact that we have so many that are being arrested as drug users, or sexual abusers, is just horrible. There needs to be a better way to track these things, and make sure those types of predators aren't working with children (it would be nice if they didn't exist at all). I just don't see that limiting a child's education to the home as an answer.

    If the public schools are really that bad in your area, I'd look into the private schools, where at least Hannah would have the ability to meet other kids, be involved in school sports and get those socialization skills.

    See you and I have completely opposite views on this. I feel "why limit children to the confines of public education" It tells them what they can learn, when, how, and if they are excelling or having trouble they are stuck sitting in a class that either bores them or that they just don't understand and the opportunity for personalized lessons are very slim. which then leaves parents to hire a tutor or take on the responsibility of helping the child learn it on their terms anyway. So I am just taking out the middleman.

    I think your view on homeschooling is based on very limited experience with it. It is not just Hannah holed up in the basement and never allowed to see the light of day.

    We have a local homeschool group here (parent funded not government funded) that consists of 400 students. Last year they organized a prom for the graduating students. I have the ability to teach Hannah at home... some other children may come for certain classes or I may send hannah to some of the other parents classes. Specialized classes like second languages and such are usually taught by one or two parents a few days a week... In these classes Hannah will be with other children. Weekly field trips and gatherings also ensure she will be with many other children. Not the mention the MANY various groups, clubs, sports, play groups etc that exsist in this area. homeschooled children SURELY aren't hurting for socialization... public school is NOT the be all end all of socialization. will it be a lot of work on my part? It sure will ... but I will bust my hump to do it right.

    As for homeschool getting government funding... We will NOT be using government funding. HOWEVER, why shoudln't we? We have to pay taxes to public education whether we use it or not. we don't get a choice. our money goes to public schools. So ... why SHOULDN'T I see some of that back without being forced to use public school? why should the government foot the bill for homeschoolers? why should homeschoolers foot the bill for public schools that we don't use? As for putting kids in school sports... I'm not for or against that. I don't see the big deal either way. but there are SO many sports organizations around that we won't have to rely on the public school sports programs.

    Public and private schools give kids foundations for being well rounded kids. You can't get that from a homebound education. The opportunities for classes, and diversity in curriculum and not to mention diversity of the student population as well, you just don't get that with a home based education.
    I think you might be looking at the world through rose colored glasses here. I DON'T think public schools give kids foundations for being well rounded. There are A LOT of children who don't fit the nice little package the public school system tries to put them in. No matter how much they try... a square peg just ISN"T going to fit into a round hole. I will give Hannah the foundation to be a well rounded child

    Homeschooling allows me to tailor Hannah's lessons to suit her the best... to help her learn in the best way possible for HER... not the best way for Johnny or Sally... the best way for HANNAH. If she is struggling on a subject I can take as much time as needed to help her GET IT... she won't just drown in a 30 student classroom before I am notified that she is struggling. If she is excelling in another subject I don't need to spend 6 weeks going over something she already gets to make sure everyone ELSE gets it. We can do the work and move on.

    And last but not least... We will be homeschooling because WE believe it is in her best interest... NOT to make anyone else happy or to change anyone else's mind about homeschooling. but I will NOT pay the price for homeschoolers who are dishonest or just don't put the work into it and I will NOT have hannah pay the price for TEACHERS who are dishonest or don't care to put the work into it. You can compare all homeschoolers to the poor examples out there but that will make no difference to me in how I teach my daughter and help her become a well rounded RESPECTFUL person.




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    Puck and Sparks, you two totally answered the "comments" posted WAY more compassionately and without defensiveness than I could ever have done. And, to boot, I am not a fan of homeschooling MY child. I just like to be a little less judgmental about what other people do with their own.

    But, Puck- I still don't want you to own guns.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cataholic View Post
    Puck and Sparks, you two totally answered the "comments" posted WAY more compassionately and without defensiveness than I could ever have done. And, to boot, I am not a fan of homeschooling MY child. I just like to be a little less judgmental about what other people do with their own.

    But, Puck- I still don't want you to own guns.
    Thank you.

    As for the guns thing... I put my self on probation, so I will leave that alone. This time. LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by Puckstop31 View Post
    Thank you.

    As for the guns thing... I put my self on probation, so I will leave that alone. This time. LOL


    Ah....probation. It can be a good thing at times. Just give yourself time off for good behaviour!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cataholic View Post
    Puck and Sparks, you two totally answered the "comments" posted WAY more compassionately and without defensiveness than I could ever have done. And, to boot, I am not a fan of homeschooling MY child. I just like to be a little less judgmental about what other people do with their own.

    But, Puck- I still don't want you to own guns.
    Thank you

    I think we are just used to having our choice questioned because a lot of people don't really understand how far homeschooling has come and how different and diverse it can be if you are willing to put the work into it. this isn't a decision that we just one day said "HEY let's homeschool" we have done a lot of research, talked to A LOT of people who homeschool and A LOT of people who don't, read everything we find about it...

    I'm not out to get anyone else's approval or to try to change their mind but I am more than happy to give a little more background on what homeschooling really can be beause a lot of people just don't really have a clear understanding.




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    Anyone who wants additional information or find answers to questions
    concerning S.B. 1738 , can check this //www.protect.org/childPornography/

    It has links to the bill language itself & a Q & A section for law inforcement
    personnel. Children need to be a priority.They are our future. Please help
    by asking your Senators to support the bill.
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    It's good to know these creeps don't always slip through the cracks.
    This man worked for our local FOX network as a film & camera tech.



    Police: Indy Man Had Thousands Of Child Porn Images, Movies
    Man Also Accused Of Distributing Child Porn

    POSTED: 11:34 am EDT October 4, 2008
    UPDATED: 12:03 pm EDT October 4, 2008


    INDIANAPOLIS -- An Indianapolis man went before a federal judge on Friday to answer to charges of possessing and distributing child pornography.

    Michael Wildridge, 40, had thousands of images and movies of child pornography on his home computer, according to the affidavit, including depictions of children as young as infants and numerous children engaged in explicit sexual conduct.

    He was also accused of distributing child pornography to a former resident of Miami Beach, Fla., who was sentenced to federal prison for the crime, according to the affidavit.

    Wildridge’s arrest was the result of a joint investigation by U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement, along with authorities in Hamilton County, Brownsburg and Indianapolis.

    Wildridge was arrested at his home on Friday morning and appeared before U.S. Magistrate Judge Kennard P. Foster in Indianapolis on Friday afternoon. He was ordered held in custody pending a detention hearing on Wednesday at 2 p.m.
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    OMG. You can't tell who it might be by just looking.

    My prayers for those children and their parents! I hope they heal.

    What an unspeakable and brutal betrayal of trust and abuse of position.
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    Personally, I could care less. I haven't done anything wrong and have nothing to hide. So, surveillance used to help any suspicious activity, ESPECIALLLY predators of children AND animals I'm all for.

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