Wow. That woman is going to be a very unhappy person once her "love" is gone and so is her friend. Some people will sacrifice everything for a significan other, including friendships, and it's just sad.

If I were you, I'd be packing up and leaving. Pack things, and move them out to a storage facility, a friend's house, somewhere. Just get things packed and get them out. If she wants to "show" the house, let her show it without your amenities.

If you actually had a signed lease, there should have been something about privacy and what boundaries are. It sounds like she and her boyfriend don't know the meaning of boundaries and just do what they want, regardless of what the other party would like to be considered.

The fact that he is doing all the talking, and telling you what he wants you to do, is just showing what a control freak he really is. He's taking possession of her, and technically, her valuables and property. Wouldn't be surprised if he was abusive as well. He may not be, but behavior like that can lead to abuse, and sounds like she wouldn't know how to stick up for herself either, sadly.

I hope you move your things out quickly. I'd do it ASAP.