You don't abuse your bird in the slightest.
My RB budgie, Norri, wasn't fond of being out of his cage at all. Star sounds just like him. I still found ways to spoil him and make sure he wasn't deprived of attention. Either way, I guess that makes me a bad bird mum, too, eh? Haha.

"Bird people" saying Sunny died because you couldn't get him to the vet fast enough? Anyone who knows a lick about birds knows that it is their instinct to hide their illnesses as long as possible, often so long that it is too late for a vet.

((((Hugs)))) I believe you are a great bird mum!