I "abuse" my bird, apparently.

**Zippy** · 08-13-2008, 10:29 PM

Your a wonderful owner to Star.Don't listen to those people.
My mom's parakeet Squeekie doesn't like to be touched or handled.But that doesn't mean he doesn't get loved and cared for.
Some birds just liked to be talked too and not handled that doesn't mean they aren't loved.
Some People

**Casper** · 08-13-2008, 10:54 PM

You don't abuse your bird in the slightest.
My RB budgie, Norri, wasn't fond of being out of his cage at all. Star sounds just like him. I still found ways to spoil him and make sure he wasn't deprived of attention. Either way, I guess that makes me a bad bird mum, too, eh? Haha.

"Bird people" saying Sunny died because you couldn't get him to the vet fast enough? Anyone who knows a lick about birds knows that it is their instinct to hide their illnesses as long as possible, often so long that it is too late for a vet.

((((Hugs)))) I believe you are a great bird mum!

**Alysser** · 08-14-2008, 09:26 AM

Thanks guys. I can't believe some people.

Courtney, yes, we are bird abusers and horrible bird moms.

**Husky_mom** · 08-14-2008, 11:24 AM

I´m too on bird forums but haven´t been on lately... perhaps I know which one you are talking about....

my Tiels, I tied out of the cage time... only Maui seemed to like it... the other either won´t come out for anything in the world OR run like mad until they get back in again........ so out of cage time was out of the question... sooo I do understand what you are talking about... not all birds are that tame and confident to get and enjoy cage free time...

as long as she has food water and attention... you are doing great....

at first I felt bad not letting them out, seeing almost everyone there did, but now I know better... I just do whats best for MY situation adn treat my birds PROPERLY... that´s that...

you are doing great, even better than some other people I´ve seen (real life), so don´t worry and don´t mind them

**Miss Z** · 08-14-2008, 02:10 PM

I'd think it would be far more abusive if you were trying to grab and hold Star against her will rather than understanding and respecting her by keeping your distance! These people on that forum sound like morons.

I don't think anyone could doubt that you give 110% into caring for your pets. Excuse us for not waiting by our pets' cages armed with a poop-a-scoop and a disinfectant bottle so we can keep the cage sparkling. Deary me, some people aren't very practical-thinking.

They are horribly out of order about what they said to you concerning Sunny. How dare they, honestly. And to make assumptions about how he lived and passed on, to me they just sound like they're out for an arguement. They aren't worth your spit, Alyssa, let alone your explanations. I think they're better off ignored.

So sorry this has happened!

**Alysser** · 08-14-2008, 05:38 PM

Husky_mom, glad you see where I am coming from. If she doesn't want to come out of the cage, I'm not going to make her. I felt bad about it too, honestly, and still sometimes do. But it's not like she's starving for food and thirsty and she has no love.

Zara, great post as always

I think I got banned, I dunno. Not going back there LOL.